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Re: Nine Things You Can Do Every Day – Even When You Can’t Do Anything Else.

alexfayle — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:26:03 -0000

I do all those things every day except for eat a fruit or vegetable. Food is my big happiness/someday challenge...

At some point I'll figure out a way to get over that one.

Re: "Everything That Irritates Us About Others..."

alexfayle — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 14:27:26 -0000

Wonderful quote and so appropriate to my mood! I've spent most of the day thinking about this, so it's good to have the quote to add to the thoughts.

Re: More Tips about Making and Keeping New Year's Resolutions Than You Could Want.

alexfayle — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 09:26:15 -0000

Happy New Year Gretchen!

I read your book over the holidays and will be promoting the heck out of it to my newsletter subscribers. It's had the same effect on me that the book The Comfort Trap did (which was the book that got me to stop coasting and to follow my writing dreams out of Canada to Spain) - except without making any drastic changes.

You also got me thinking about resolutions - and I've come up with 36 of them (doing them in a version of my own Happiness Project).

Thanks again for sending it to me!

Cheers,
Alex

Re: What the Heck is Integrated Marketing Anyway?

alexfayle — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 09:34:01 -0000

I just decided to apply an integrated approach to drive people to a single point in my website and suddenly all my various marketing ideas have coalesced into a single marketing strategy and for the first time since I start running my own businesses back in 2003, I'm actually excited about marketing.

Re: How To Instantly Make Time For Yourself – And Get More Accomplished

alexfayle — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:20:56 -0000

The last point - put yourself first - is one that many of my clients have troubles with. Women especially are taught to put others first and then they end up totally unhappy with life and feeling too busy and unproductive.

A little bit of selfishness is a good thing!

Re: Some Counter-Intuitive Facts about Loneliness.

alexfayle — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 08:27:31 -0000

When I lived in a small French village and all the people I knew had kids and therefore disappeared as of 6pm, I was never so lonely and never so hermit-like.

However instead of making me unhappier, knowing that the stay was not forever, I embraced the loneliness and had a wonderful time by myself. If I hadn't knew it was going to end, however, I'm certain I would have just gotten sulky and more withdrawn...

Re: "We Are Never So Much Disposed to Quarrel As When..."--What?

alexfayle — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:08:52 -0000

So totally true. And I'm better at letting the bad moods of other people slide off me without effect because the quarrelsomeness has nothing to do with me.

Re: Eleven Myths of De-Cluttering.

alexfayle — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:09:31 -0000

Those are the principles I used when I had my organizing business - get rid of things so that you don't have to worry about being hyper organized. I love being chaotic, but it takes me 10 minutes to get organized because I have so little.

Re: Which Websites and Blogs Boost Your Happiness?

alexfayle — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:16:45 -0000

Thanks for the opportunity to spread the Someday-busting love and get a whole bunch of new blogs to check out!

Re: Lifestyle Design is Self Indulgent

alexfayle — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:20:02 -0000

Nicely said! I'm all for lifestyle design (and in fact talk about it all the time on my own blog) but for me it's not at all about passive income, internet marketing or even necessarily about money. It's about doing what's best for you and best for those around you (including the world at large).

Glad to have found you through Cath Duncan's latest blog carnival!

Re: A Fundamental Secret to Happiness? Get Enough Sleep.

alexfayle — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 08:37:36 -0000

I've also found getting too much sleep is bad. In fact in my mid-20s I had a sleep study done and they told me that I'm good with six to seven hours and then my brain wakes up and gets active, meaning by the time my body wakes up later I'm exhausted and feel like I haven't slept at all.

Re: The Flip Side of “HELL YEAH!” Or No – How About “HELL WHY NOT!”

alexfayle — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 02:35:28 -0000

I lived most of my life with HELL WHY NOT? and found that I was doing a trial and error approach to my goals. When I choose the HELL YES! approach I got specific and took control of the decisions in my life for the first time. I acted instead of reacting.

Of course I didn't go to the extreme - I still say HELL WHY NOT? and have lots of fun exploring new things, but I do try to focus on finding more HELL YES! moments.

Re: A Secret to Happiness? Don't Get Organized.

alexfayle — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 06:01:06 -0000

Yahoo! This is a great post. As an organizer, my number one piece of advice to clients who wanted to get organized was: keep very little.

For example, I'm not a big paper person - hate it in fact. For all my business expenses and papers in a year, I stick them in monthly envelopes in a box and label the box.

Any other papers that need to be kept that aren't financial go in my "Important Papers Box" completely unsorted. I don't need to organize them because I keep very few papers. When the box is full, I go through it and get rid of what I no longer need.

It makes life so much simpler!

Re: The Audacity of Free

alexfayle — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 05:23:34 -0000

This conversation is happening everywhere and it's setting off a millions thoughts in my head. I blog to showcase my coaching services - but the more I get into developing these services, the more I see the limitations of free and so something is developing but I'm not quite sure what or how I would deliver it, but it's coming...

Re: A Resolution I Bet You’ve Never Tried: Tweeting “The Waves.”

alexfayle — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 17:16:18 -0000

I've never read The Waves, but I loved the imagery in Mrs Dalloway - especially all the water images.

Re: Six Tips for Coping with the Fact that You've Forgotten Someone's Name.

alexfayle — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 00:41:17 -0000

I used to have a great memory for names - never once slipped up then when I started my business and began networking, the sheer numbers overwhelmed me. Now my favourite trick is the one-sided introduction...

Re: Why "Having a Mission" Can Make You Happier.

alexfayle — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 16:43:10 -0000

I don't just have a mission - I have a mission statement and I encourage my clients to have one because no only does it make them happier (in the way you describe) but it takes away all the doubt and indecision that arises when new opportunities present themselves.

I compare the new opportunity or idea with the mission statement - if it doesn't fit, then I ask myself if my values have changed and I need to change the mission statement (highly unlikely but possible) then toss out the idea and feel confident (and without regrets) doing so.

Re: How To Actively Take Control of Your Time and Your Life

alexfayle — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 01:30:14 -0000

Thanks Sid! Glad you like it - getting rid of @someday lists is definitely my passion!

Re: How To Actively Take Control of Your Time and Your Life

alexfayle — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 13:31:41 -0000

I *love* personality tests! They're one of my procrastination joys. I'll make sure I don't do this one until I'm done my commenting and onto play time. ;)

Great tips here and they all boil down to one thing - turn off the autopilot and make conscious choices.