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Re: Crumbling ItsLavishBitch’s Facade

exileandcunning — Tue, 11 Jun 2013 00:22:32 -0000

But doesn't he show some mansion in his pics, not just a penthouse? also what about all the stuff in this article... the serial numbers on the money being the same, how all his accounts are brand new and the real parem sharma has different accounts, how some of his pictures were stolen from other people, and some of the comments on this article, like the person who pretended to buy the gold iphones and lavish tried to get them to western union $600?? if he's so rich why try to sell iphones, if he really has that much money he wouldn't bother. i'm sure there is a real kid with that name who is rich -- as the article states, his mom is the CEO of some bank in india -- but that doesn't mean that it's the same kid who runs itslavishbitch. the kid in the photo looks like a different person from the parem sharma of the other facebook account.

Re: What ELSE Your Taste In Music Says About You On A Date « How About We – Date Report

exileandcunning — Thu, 19 Sep 2013 15:16:30 -0000

Elliott Smith? Jason Molina? both of those would mean "you are sensitive, literary, and self-destructive and will die young."

Typhoon: you make trauma sound like a battle cry

Silver Mt. Zion: you're either a pirate or in a barbershop quartet and you play the cello.

Re: Dangerous Minds | BRUTAL Time magazine cover eloquently states the obvious about the Republican shutdown

exileandcunning — Tue, 08 Oct 2013 05:17:34 -0000

I wasn't even born until 1981 and i know that "the silent majority" was a 70s term (actually popularized by Nixon in 1969 http://en.wikipedia.org/wik... ) denoting "hey, not all of us are longhaired freelovin' hippies, we are good ol' Christian white boys with morals and stuff, let's stop being scared by our acid-dropping kids and take back the country!" Similar to other Repub movements over time, reactionary and stupid.

oh, i guess you were specifically referring to the phrase "the ____ majority is neither" which yes, was only used for the moral majority, i think anyway. the silent majority wasn't very silent, though. or moral.

Re: Dangerous Minds | BRUTAL Time magazine cover eloquently states the obvious about the Republican shutdown

exileandcunning — Tue, 08 Oct 2013 05:32:53 -0000

How on EARTH will the self-employed be hurt more? I guess as an impoverished student who has lacked insurance since I was 20 (so, for 12 years), and got bad credit before i EVER had a credit card just for my hospital bills from things i never could have foreseen (random infection, etc)... i will never be able to own a house or buy a new car because even after paying off ALL my hospital bills, my credit score is still too low to get even the worst credit card or financing.

Anyway, as a result of the ACA, I recently got a letter in the mail saying I qualify for Oregon Health Plan (our state program), which used to only be open to me if i were pregnant and/or had AIDS. I'm assuming I got the letter because I qualify for food stamps so they know I'm broke. I can't wait to sign up and never have to worry again that some random injury/disease will put me in debt for another 10 years and screw up my credit even more. I want to have kids soon (once i'm done with my degree in a year) and they shouldn't have to suffer because I didn't have insurance when I had a kidney infection when I was 20. Not just not having insurance (I hope after college I'll get into my chosen career, journalism, and have coverage for me, my guy, and our future kids, but since so many writer-reporters freelance now, that's not so likely), but also not getting to have things I could have bought with financing/credit if my credit weren't so shitty due to lack of insurance in the past. Most of my friends are in the same boat with debt and no insurance so it's not just me. In fact I don't know anyone with insurance, and I'm 32.

Since my partner is a fine dining cook [insurance for highly skilled cooks in restaurants where meals cost $300/person? owners can't afford it! seriously], i will probably be the one who will have to get insurance for our kids and us in our future old age, and if that somehow doesn't pan out, i need an alternate plan like the ACA. may not be perfect, but right now it's keeping me from worrying quite so much.

Re: an open letter to sinéad o’connor, re: miley cyrus.

exileandcunning — Thu, 07 Nov 2013 03:03:20 -0000

Do you realize a new episode of Hannah Montana hasn't come out for over TWO YEARS?? So no her audience isn't Disney aged kids! Her old viewers have either grown up like her or moved on to other Disney shows. Are you saying that even after 2 years, a 20 year old woman can't express herself like other musicians because she was once on Disney? If so, when is it ok for her to act like an adult? 5 years? Never? Britney Spears and every other Disney artist had a similar growing up period. Miley is no more influential over kids than Lady Gaga, who wore a freaking THONG to the VMAs.

Re: A History of U.S. Heroin Addiction

exileandcunning — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 20:58:59 -0000

That's how I felt when I was 21, when I started shooting heroin. Unfortunately, it isn't very awesome when you're selling your body in order to finance your $300/day heroin habit and have ruined every vein in your arms, wrists, hands, and even fingers. After 11 years of shooting up I finally got clean, back in school, and back in the land of the living.

http://storiesfromthefire.b... (if you want to see what the fallout of a decade of heroin use sounds like...)

Re: A History of U.S. Heroin Addiction

exileandcunning — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 21:07:05 -0000

I agree that prohibition is the problem, but you're wrong that the vast majority of heroin users aren't addicts. Do you have a statistic to back that up with? I was an IV heroin user from age 21-32 and have known hundreds of heroin users either very well or in passing... I have met maybe 3 people who weren't addicts. Sure, I know people who have just tried it a few times -- but typically they stop right away, I've never known anyone who has tried it more than 10 times who hasn't gone through withdrawal at LEAST once, usually way more than once. And most addicts stay addicted for years. Therefore, the heroin being used by the people who have tried it 1-10 times is a tiny fraction of the overall amount of heroin being used.

For one thing, heroin has such a horrible reputation that NO ONE tries it unless they are incredibly self-destructive, rebellious, or are dealing with major trauma (for me it was all of the above). There are no "casual users" because people see it as so addictive that anyone sane who might be able to use it casually will never try it to begin with. It's not like drinking where there's a whole class of people who can do it once in a while and be fine. By the time you even TRY heroin, you have either gone through some really messed up stuff or you don't care if you throw your life away. This virtually ensures that the vast majority of people who try it will get sucked into addiction because the heroin will alleviate their problems so much that it becomes irresistible.

My blog: http://storiesfromthefire.b...

Re: Why I'm Not Crazy: True Detective's Case Against Maggie

exileandcunning — Sun, 09 Mar 2014 17:31:06 -0000

I think there are clues, but it's impossible to tell which ones will be significant!

Re: Why I'm Not Crazy: True Detective's Case Against Maggie

exileandcunning — Sun, 09 Mar 2014 17:33:59 -0000

He didn't use any semi-colons. He used several colons, and he used them correctly. What's wrong with semi-colons, anyway? He didn't use ampersands in a strictly correct way according to AP or MLA style, but come on, this is an internet forum, not a term paper.
-journalist and grammar nazi

Re: Why I'm Not Crazy: True Detective's Case Against Maggie

exileandcunning — Sun, 09 Mar 2014 17:39:22 -0000

You do know that season 2 will be all different actors, storyline, setting, everything? Rust and Marty will be gone. The Yellow King story and the missing women and children will be gone. So there won't be some annoying cliffhanger ending like there is with a lot of shows, even good ones. That said, I will still be anxiously awaiting the next season. Hopefully it will be longer!

Re: <i>True Detective</i>: “Form And Void”

exileandcunning — Mon, 10 Mar 2014 05:09:10 -0000

Thank you, PedestrianX! If people would just watch the show, these were all answered. In the episode, Errol called the corpse father or dad. In the last episode, Rust and Marty found out about Tuttle's bastard son. And of COURSE Tuttle is involved, that's where they found the tape of that rape/murder. The crazy old black lady talked about where the scars came from. The rest of the "cult posse" is unknown, that's why Rust was upset, because they didn't catch all of them, and that's when Marty said "Yeah, but we got ours." WATCH THE SHOW INSTEAD OF ASKING OBVIOUS STUFF.

Re: Why I'm sick and tired of seeing naked women on HBO - The Week

exileandcunning — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 00:06:36 -0000

If you want to see naked people, why not just watch porn? I'm not opposed to nudity in tv as much as this author is, but when it's just gratuitous sex scenes that add nothing to the plot, like most of the sex in the Sopranos, it gets tiresome if you're a female viewer.

Re: Alabama children’s pastor tells police he ‘cannot remember’ how many boys he molested

exileandcunning — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 02:02:37 -0000

I would normally agree but in cases of child rape, I get even more angry than I do at murderers. Honestly if someone thinks they are going to act on their sick attraction to children, they should just shoot themselves. it's been well-proven that these people can't be rehabilitated and will struggle with it their entire lives. I think even a killer would have a better chance of feeling remorse and learning to live a normal life.

Re: Alabama children’s pastor tells police he ‘cannot remember’ how many boys he molested

exileandcunning — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 02:04:11 -0000

I agree one million percent. I believe the desire to kill someone is something a person could get over if they wanted to, but desire for children has been proven to be something that can't be changed even if the person wants to change and goes to years of therapy. I really wish these people cared about the kids they rape enough to kill themselves before they acted on that desire.

Re: Should 'upskirt photos' really be legal?

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 14:10:08 -0000

What about if it's a fat MALE who's flashing their crack? This guy took a picture of over 10 guys who haven't learned how to wear pants that fit or at least wear a longer shirt. And he didn't have to get down to ground level or use a weird angle, this is stuff that anyone in the room could see: http://time.com/20074/playe...

Re: Women, watch out: needy men are on the rise

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 14:17:16 -0000

Um, any adult male should have a job, or at least try to find one. When my amazing fiance lost his job, he couldn't find one for 4 months, but I could see him looking every single day, going to interviews, etc. Eventually he found something. But I've had other boyfriends who would just sit around all day and let me support them. In fact, out of 15 or so boyfriends, only one of them has made more than me while we were together, and that's saying a lot because most of the time I was living at the US poverty level. Most of them were smart and capable of working, but lost their job or never had one in the first place, and never looked for one.

Re: The real reason women 'choose to' hobble around in high heels

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 15:39:15 -0000

There is so such thing as a heel-wearing feminist. Ever heard of 3rd wave?

I have worn heels about 3 times in my life and I despise them, though I have never had trouble finding boyfriends and my amazing fiance has never cared that I wear flats (I still dress cute, my shoes are still stylish, and I wear a little makeup, it's not like I'm in a burlap sack). However, I think wearing heels is a choice and I know plenty of feminists who wear them. It's not the 70s anymore.

"Also considered part of the third wave is sex-positivity, a celebration of sexuality as a positive aspect of life, with broader definitions of what sex means and what oppression and empowerment may imply in the context of sex." http://en.wikipedia.org/wik...

Re: The real reason women 'choose to' hobble around in high heels

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 15:40:29 -0000

http://en.wikipedia.org/wik...

Re: Women, watch out: needy men are on the rise

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 16:35:40 -0000

Wait, where did I say I was rich?? Hahahaha! Most of this time I was age 18-30, working minimum wage US ($5-7/hr, £3-4/hr), below the poverty line ($20,000/£12,000), or I was in school. And I DID support them -- all of them -- including my current fiance. Most of these boyfriends were also living with me, so they lived rent free, ate my food, drove my car if I had one, sold my stuff to feed their drug habits, etc. I have supported my fiance for various periods of time, and he has also helped support me, when I was in school. But a YEAR? Wow, if I lived off someone that long, I would feel awful. How am I making women look like hypocrites? Supporting all those able-bodied men while they watched TV and ate my food wasn't enough, now I'm supposed to do it more and not complain about it? Like I said, my fiance was always looking for work so I never minded with him. What bothered me was guys who never even sent out one job application.

Re: Women, watch out: needy men are on the rise

exileandcunning — Mon, 17 Mar 2014 16:38:08 -0000

In fact, I already said I was living at or below the poverty level in my first comment. Try reading the whole comment first. Poverty level US is less than $20,000 a year, and it generally means you barely have enough to pay the absolute cheapest rent, live on ramen, and never see a movie or buy clothes or anything like that. The only way I had a car was that I found one that cost $800 on Craigslist. If you think this is rich, you should try living that way. Men who are totally capable of working, sitting around in my apartment all day, is never something I"m going to do with a smile. Why don't you support my deadbeat exes, you sound like you love it.

Re: Google is fed up with your Google Glass lies

exileandcunning — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 22:43:57 -0000

Best comment on "sheeple" ever:
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics...

Re: Women, watch out: needy men are on the rise

exileandcunning — Sat, 29 Mar 2014 18:55:01 -0000

I dated drug addicts because I was a drug addict too (heroin). That doesn't mean I should have to support their addictions. I got clean several years ago and I've been with my amazing boyfriend for 4 years. He always works (or looks for work if he doesn't have a job) and is the best thing that's ever happened to me (not because he has a job, but because of everything about him). Our combined income is still right at the poverty line -- it's not that I care about money, but I want whoever I'm with to make an effort instead of living off me. If I were rich, I would be more generous, but when I was literally starving while that my boyfriend(s) spent my money, that's unacceptable, and I don't understand how you could say otherwise, as you did in your first comment.

Just because I had a sketchy past doesn't mean I should be okay with supporting deadbeat boyfriends. I may have been an addict, but I never stole and I supported myself the entire time, as well as supporting guys I was dating. I didn't "immediately" date another one. I was an addict for 10 years and during that time I had maybe 5 boyfriends, each for 6 months or so. As with all relationships, they seemed like a good idea at the beginning. At least I didn't stay with my abusers for years like some women do. Honestly my relationships were the least of my problems. But having to support men who were physically and verbally abusive while they sat and watched TV certainly didn't help (if I suggested that they should get a job or that maybe they could sell their CDs/books so I didn't have to sell all of mine, the yelling, screaming, and throwing things would start all over again. I ended up selling every CD, record, and book I owned to support them, as well as most of my clothes, while the boyfriend(s) never sold anything of theirs).

I still don't understand you calling me "rich" when I said in my very first comment that I have lived below the poverty line for most of my adult life (I'm 32). Or how you said I should be happy to support my boyfriends. My own problems and mistakes shouldn't justify men to take advantage of me financially and otherwise. I think YOU should look at your values and wonder why you would tell a perfect stranger that I should be supporting deadbeat boyfriends. As I said, with my current boyfriend, who is amazing, respectful, a hard worker, and just overall a perfect guy... during his periods of unemployment I was happy to pay all the bills/rent because I knew he was trying to find work as hard as he could, and I had seen him hold down a job for months/years. It's totally different when the guy hasn't had a job for years and is making no effort to find one.

Re: ASUO presidential candidate Thomas Tullis released from Lane County jail

exileandcunning — Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:21:26 -0000

Oregon doesn't use bail. It is one of two states where you can't bail out, which is meant to be an equalizing force so that it's not just rich people getting out of jail pending their court dates. You are stuck in county until you get to trial. If you're there for a non-violent offense, they will release you pending arraignment. If you have a history of not showing up for your court date, they will hold you until arraignment and then let you go until your court date. This was obviously not a violent crime and I'm not even sure why he was held at all. Usually he would have gotten a citation, booked, and released. This is true even for stuff like drug dealers... anything non-violent. Don't ask me why I know all this.

Re: The (Unintentional) Amazon Guide to Dealing Drugs

exileandcunning — Tue, 15 Apr 2014 11:15:49 -0000

Ha... hahaha... try cold turkey heroin withdrawal. At the beginning it lasted about three weeks for me, by several years in it would last over a month where I couldn't leave the house, function, eat, sleep, or anything else. Kratom is definitely addictive, though, (I haven't done it, but my friends have) and it always annoys me when stories about drugs do absolutely NO research... potassium for decontamination? Really? Haha, as if drug dealers care about that...

Re: Rest in Peace, Google Glass: 2013-2014

exileandcunning — Fri, 17 Oct 2014 05:12:27 -0000

We do many things because of what others will think, not because of self esteem issues but because we are part of a shared culture. If you really don't care what people think, you could leave your house in your pajamas, insult strangers whom you find unattractive, commit random acts of vandalism, take a cart full of groceries in the 10 item lane, etc. We do many things because they are conventional and allow us to be accepted by those around us. Not because we are insecure, but because shared behavior and values are the glue that holds society together. This doesn't require marching in lockstep, but some things, like google glass, are just too far outside the bounds of what most people find okay.