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Re: Even if You Hate Hillary Clinton, Voting for Her is Better Than Having a Jackass for a President - by Katherine Burke

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 20 May 2016 15:25:43 -0000

THANK YOU. As a fertile-uterus-owner, I am deathly afraid of Trump being in charge of the Supreme Court. I'm not a single-issue voter, but if it came down to one, that very well might be it.

Re: Even if You Hate Hillary Clinton, Voting for Her is Better Than Having a Jackass for a President - by Katherine Burke

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 20 May 2016 15:21:16 -0000

I have thought that too. But I think it's not fear, it's the truth. A scary truth. Working down-ticket is a good way to start tearing the two-party system down, as others have said.

Re: Even if You Hate Hillary Clinton, Voting for Her is Better Than Having a Jackass for a President - by Katherine Burke

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 20 May 2016 15:12:54 -0000

And Bernie isn't against drones either.

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Confronted My Rapist Via Facebook - by Sarahbeth Caplin

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 20 May 2016 15:09:23 -0000

Mine kept adding me on various social media sites. Whether it was totally purposeful, or if he was just running his email address book through their "find friends" feature - either way, he was likely choosing to check a box by my name. I had never voiced what he'd done, but I had consistently blocked him and, I think, told him to stop talking to me years before. So when he added me on Twitter nearly 5 years later, I was OVER IT. He lived on another continent and thought of me as an ex-girlfriend, I guess? But clearly there was no warmth between us, even his dense ass had to see that.

Anyway, I publicly tweeted a link to the XO Jane article "My rapist friended me on Facebook" and then tweeted a few additional thoughts out into the public, phrased something like this:
Some people are only where they are because someone else decided not to report them or seek revenge.
Yeah, I told you to leave me alone years ago, but you never were good at understanding the word "no."

...he stopped following me. I was so, so happy.

Re: Why I'm Done Learning to Love My Body - by Emily

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 23:29:23 -0000

How did he lose 60 pounds in 4 months? Or am I reading this wrong?

Re: I Have Over 4,000 Dollars of Bridesmaid Debt From Women I'm Not Even Friends With Anymore - by Noelle Boostani

WhateverLolaWants — Wed, 05 Aug 2015 00:10:55 -0000

Yes, I just experienced that dynamic within a bridal party, and it was pretty awful. I was the bridesmaid who was most willing to speak up for the other ones who didn't want to/couldn't spend that much, and I took a lot of heat for it. I'm still friends with everyone, but the experience still bothers me.

Re: Facebook Doesn’t Like My Face: A Facebook Ad Team Told Me That My Face Would Receive “High Negative Feedback” - by Lisa Goodman-Helfand

WhateverLolaWants — Tue, 04 Aug 2015 23:21:14 -0000

FB removed an image I reported, showing Michelle Obama with a penis, but it deemed the comment below it acceptable. Something about how her husband needed a "nice strong rope around his neck."

Re: Nervous Notre Dame grandma prays at March Madness game (Video)

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 20 Mar 2015 00:27:11 -0000

Her name is Pat and she was in charge of 4-H on the west side of Indianapolis when I was growing up. Really nice lady!

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: Polyamory Ended Up Costing Me $1,000 And A Piece Of My Sanity - by Anonymous

WhateverLolaWants — Wed, 18 Mar 2015 19:27:06 -0000

I'd be mad about losing my nail polish too.

Re: I Wore Jennifer Baumgardner's "I Was Raped" Shirt in Public - by Allison McCarthy

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 18:55:56 -0000

I think if I saw someone wearing it I would give them an empathetic, knowing nod. Which is hard to describe. It reminds me of a time I was working at a store alone and started feeling panicky thinking about shitty stuff that has happened, stuff that mostly happens to women. A girl about my age walked in and even though we didn't talk much beyond just, "Hi, can I help find something for you?", I somehow got this comforting sense when she looked at me that she was a kindred "girl who gets it" and it made me feel much better. I know that sounds kind of dumb or new-agey, but whatever. I'm glad she came in.

Re: I Wore Jennifer Baumgardner's "I Was Raped" Shirt in Public - by Allison McCarthy

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 18:52:28 -0000

Sounds like we've had a lot of experiences in common :(

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Had a Ruptured Ovarian Cyst and No One Would Help Me Without Insurance - by Lisa M. Basile

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 17:21:18 -0000

Yeah, that sounds a lot like my experience too. Misdiagnoses or shrugs on a few visits. High bills afterwards. It took years for me to even learn what a panic attack can look like. I went to the ER with panic attack symptoms twice (I now realize) and I was told I might be pregnant or have esophagitis, a UTI, a cold, and a few other things that I did NOT actually have. I just wish the doctor had taken 20 seconds to even just tell me that my symptoms could be a panic attack and I should look it up at home. One briefly mentioned anxiety and that was it. I spent years in the dark. And I even followed up with my primary care doctors too. :(

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Had a Ruptured Ovarian Cyst and No One Would Help Me Without Insurance - by Lisa M. Basile

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 17:16:28 -0000

Yeah. I had the worst panic attack I'd ever had a few weeks ago on a Sunday evening and didn't know that all that chest pain can be part of a panic attack. I pulled over and, gasping, called 911. An ambulance came and transported me less than 2 miles. They ran an EKG and talked me down during the drive. $2300 before insurance. The ER bill for a 2-hour stay with another EKG, a pregnancy test, a short consultation, and a prescription written out was $3000+ before insurance. The medicine they prescribed was only about $20 with insurance, no idea what it would be without. Even with insurance, my ER responsibilities are about $1000 and I haven't found out what the ambulance will cost me yet. Guess it's yet another year where I hit my deductible early...

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Had a Ruptured Ovarian Cyst and No One Would Help Me Without Insurance - by Lisa M. Basile

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 17:08:12 -0000

I took selfies with my cyst before and then the scars right after when I was in recovery. It was mostly so I could see what it looked like later on. It was also to entertain myself and send the bloody ones to my more macabre friends.

Re: 5 Of The Worst Songs You Could Ever Have Sex To - by Rebecca

WhateverLolaWants — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 23:29:57 -0000

Led Zeppelin and the Rolling Stones are solid choices for sexy-times playlists.

Re: Is LinkedIn The New Tinder? I Went on a Date Disguised as A Job Interview - by NaNa

WhateverLolaWants — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 23:15:00 -0000

I don't see how LinkedIn is in any way a dating site. The idea horrifies me. Asking someone on a date under false pretenses is always sketchy, but especially when they are looking for a job and think it's an interview! And on a job interview, the interviewer buys. At the least, you pay separately.

Re: I’m Marrying a Man That I’ve Only Met Six Times and Moving Across the World for Him - by Laura Anderson

WhateverLolaWants — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 23:01:10 -0000

I, too, am worried. Perhaps it's just the focus she wanted the article to have, but there's so much about what a challenge and adventure this will be. Adventures are great and help you learn about yourself and prove yourself, but is that what marriage is about? I'm also very concerned about how vulnerable she will be. I went to Ecuador to teach English at 23. I was very vulnerable at first (not speaking much of the language, not knowing anyone except my employer and a few other teachers, having very little money, etc), and I was taken advantage of by someone I thought cared about me. I hate to think of that happening to her. I also had a great time later on in my stay, but years later I still wish I'd had more resources early on. I don't want to judge, but I am genuinely concerned for her health/safety and happiness.

Re: How My Husband Found Out About My Secret Affair

WhateverLolaWants — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:23:16 -0000

But she didn't lose. She caught herself and redirected herself before she did something she'd regret.

Re: The hardest break-ups are the friendship break-ups

WhateverLolaWants — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:14:57 -0000

When I was "dumped" by 3 of my best friends in the middle of my senior year of college (and lost other friends too as a byproduct), it felt worse and took longer to recover from than any romantic breakup I've ever had. It took YEARS to feel at peace. One girl came back and apologized 4 years later and we rekindled our friendship, although we're not as close. Her doing that gave me the final closure I needed, although I'd like to think I would have found it on my own eventually. It's been 7 years now and even though I've gone through intense romantic breakups since then, none were as bad as that. On the other hand, it might have been easier to handle loss by then precisely BECAUSE of my experience handling it before. In any case, I get it. Hugs.

Re: One Abortion, Two Abortions

WhateverLolaWants — Fri, 30 Jan 2015 18:41:24 -0000

The majority of abortion patients already have children. Look it up.

Re: The Top 10 Most Sexist Songs (That AREN’T Rap or Hip Hop)

WhateverLolaWants — Mon, 03 Nov 2014 17:57:21 -0000

I absolutely hate "I will possess your heart" by Death Cab for Cutie.

Re: Group protests new Fashion Mall fur store

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 02 Oct 2014 13:22:53 -0000

They say "these people don't care about the homeless" as a way to dismiss the argument altogether. It's a silly game of Oppression Olympics and quite specious. How do they know that those individuals don't also help the homeless? I don't know about everyone else, but I'm against fur and meat and also support plenty of human charities. How do we know the speaker actually does? If they cared so much about one cause, perhaps they'd understand that everyone has causes dear to their heart, and it's not the same for everyone.

Re: Police investigate several break-ins in Fountain Square neighborhood

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 02 Oct 2014 13:19:47 -0000

A gun won't do a lot of good if you're not at home like all these folks. Or if the robber overpowers you or grabs it first.

Re: xoFOOD: A Considered Review of Root Beer Float Oreos

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 04 Sep 2014 16:19:11 -0000

I want to try tzatziki chips, even if they're disappointing. I kind of liked the cappuccino chips, actually.

Re: Double Standards Still Exist in the Workplace

WhateverLolaWants — Thu, 04 Sep 2014 16:00:16 -0000

Feeling this so hard right now.