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Re: I have 18 X's carved on my back. - LoveGivesMeHope - Stories That Make You Go "AWW!"

Sebastyne — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 02:30:38 -0000

Those scars are a symbol of your strength, not a symbol of being a victim. Wear them proudly! To you, they are probably a reminder of horrible moments in the hands of someone who is not worth of your tears, but to the rest of us those scars mean something else... You are a beautiful survivor, just like he said. And each X will mark his kisses and love. I wish I could take away some of your pain...

Re: Common Fucking Courtesy: Grammar, Usage and Online Dating

Sebastyne — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 22:43:39 -0000

I agree that profiles are the KEY to successful online dating. Even if you write the best personal email to someone, if you have a crappy profile your game is over. Not everyone can do it, as some people simply aren't literate enough to pull of a dating profile, and that doesn't make them undatable in the real life. They're just better off hanging out at night clubs. Anyway... My pet peeve on a profile (in addition to it not saying ANYTHING is) starting it along the lines of: "I don't know what I'm doing here", "I know this might be a little desperate" or "I hope my friends never find this". That to me says that they themselves have now come to the point where they feel they are desperate enough to try online dating, and that they really don't have much of an expectation of the other people using it either.

As for well written profiles: My now husband wrote me the coolest email ever, backed up with a cool profile. Need I say more? :)

Re: Are Blog Comments a Source of Referral Traffic?

Sebastyne — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:59:58 -0000

I definitely don't get much traffic through comments. Twitter, yes, comments, nah. That's probably because I don't comment enough on other blogs to be honest. The reason why I don't comment enough is that I don't read enough, because I almost certainly leave a comment if I read something half decent.

What sparks my interest: 1. Wit. 2. Sense of humour. 3. Clarity 4. Avatar. Unfortunately I'm somewhat hard to please, so all of those 4 have to be there.

Commenting on my blog is a lot more efficient of course, couple of nice things to say and I'm like "Oh, who is this lovely person?!" (Flattering works on me, totally. :D)

Re: Is Twitter considering charging business users?

Sebastyne — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:23:06 -0000

I think they should try and come up with something extra for companies (pro members) to pay for, while leaving the current services as they are. As Andy above said, it is hard to make a difference between an individual twittering about the company they work for and a company account. If a company uses Twitter for purely advertising purpose, who wants to follow them anyway? There could be "a pro account" with some features available only by paying. I agree that Twitter should find a way to get more money out of their massive success, but this is not the exact right way to go about it.

Re: My 30-day Blogging Challenge

Sebastyne — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 21:37:14 -0000

Oh writing every day is a great goal! I used to do it (even without teachers prompting) for years... Since I was 16 'till I was in my 20's... Ironically, that was when my life actually became somewhat interesting. :D It is a lot of fun going back now and check what I did this day in 1995, and go: "Glad I'm not 18 anymore." :D

Re: The Social Networking Golden Rule

Sebastyne — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 21:26:27 -0000

That "do onto others as.." is a great social networking golden rule indeed! For me, I'm always quite shy to add people to my friends list. (Twitter is a low pressure one though.) The reason is that I'm often irritated by some people who add me, because they never say anything to me or give me a reason why they added me. I never understand why they don't, and why my presence on their friends list is important to them.. I'm awfully glad though when someone adds me and tells me why - like they actually read my profile before adding me. So when I add people, I always tell them why I did, but my threshold to do this is still quite high. I would like to be better at social networking, but it's hard for an introvert. :p

Re: Banish the Ego Barrier

Sebastyne — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 21:22:46 -0000

Oh the ego... Mine has been throwing temper tantrums for the lack of attention online. Other than that, it's okay. It was well served for a while, but wasn't happy when the attention sifted to other people - close to me but away. Ego has troubles getting over it.

I feel lucky though that I have some connection to the real self, and it mocks ego for being such a brat. :p

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Re: Do I Deserve One, Yet?

Sebastyne — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 03:49:15 -0000

I agree with Megan, there's nothing more you need to do to earn your wings. (Definitely not adding more side bar widgets. ;) ) Without hesitation you awarded me here, and what have I done to deserve it any more than you have, other than indulged in self-centered wondering about why things are as they are for a bit longer than you... Well, a lot longer, with less success!

I thank you for the award, but for reasons I explained to you privately, I won't be accepting the award.

I hope this will post as me - I have noticed after working on your site, WordPress gets confused about who I am even if I log out. :D

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Re: Guest Book

Sebastyne — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 04:33:34 -0000

I haven't seen the contact button, so I haven't done that.

The Wall comments go to moderation queue for the first message and then the followed ones are auto-moderated. (Unless changed in the overall comment settings.)

Re: Guest Book

Sebastyne — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 01:24:28 -0000

Hi, testing your new Guest book / Comment wall here. You said you wanted something interactive, how about this? The beauty of it is that it doesn't have to be in the side bar the WHOLE time.

Re: Questioning the Answer

Sebastyne — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 23:42:29 -0000

The question, to me is: "Does the Universal Truth really need us knowing or believing it?" What ever is, is, and I think that we're so much in a need of finding the answer because of the idea that you need to believe in God to be accepted to the eternal life. If there is a God, why would he care, and if there isn't, why should we care? I do think there is a God, who really doesn't need anyone of us believing in him or worshipping him, because, well, he IS the God.

BTW, I tagged you to a meme - I don't know if you do them but there you go. *You've been served*

Re: "...If Only I Were An Accomplished Techie...!"

Sebastyne — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 17:48:41 -0000

You mean to tell me that you actually REMOVED some widgets already? Talk about Fear Factor!

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Re: Ode to an "Young" Friend!

Sebastyne — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 13:53:47 -0000

Hahha, now everyone knows how cruel I can be - but let's call it tough love, shall we? I had a blast making this change for you. You know when the house is really dirty, and you clean it up, you get an immense sense of satisfaction even when you'd normally hate cleaning up? It was a bit like that, without getting your hands dirty, which is great. :D

(Yes, still a few more things to do and we can call it a blog!)

Re: How Free is Your Thinking?

Sebastyne — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 00:01:47 -0000

When I left the church years ago in my early 20's, I decided on one thing: I would not let anyone or anything dictate what I believe. This of course, isn't really what Free Thinking is all about traditionally, but to me it is the very essence of it. I started by getting together all the things that I believed to be true, such as reincarnation and basically the fact that I didn't believe in sin&punishment, but simple evolution of the soul. Few years later I found books that said more or less the same thing, adding some, but rarely contradicting what I had been thinking. That to me was a powerful proof of the value of true free thinking - it allows people to actually get to the truth without being obstructed by thesis created by other people who's motivations are not always pure or clear.

Re: Online Dating: A New Way to Think About Branding, SEO and SEM

Sebastyne — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 22:37:27 -0000

Interesting indeed. I am a big believer of online dating, and made quite a Brand for myself when I was doing it. I don't anymore, since I found my husband online. :) The profile wasn't big enough for me - I started a whole website from the point of view of what makes me so damned cool. My husband swallowed the whole thing with the hook and line and all. :p No seriously, it was what I was, and not only did it get me a husband, it got me a lot of friends and a very vibrant discussion board at the time, so yeah, it was very rewarding on many levels. :)

I got some laughs out of people too, some thought I took dating way too seriously, but see who got the last laugh! :D

Re: Get off your pedestal

Sebastyne — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 16:39:29 -0000

Yes, I have done this before, when I thought people don't lie about their abilities and their virtues. How naive of me! Then when I noticed that some people aren't as fascinating as they pretend to be, I thought that they just don't realise it themselves. Then, finally I realised that some people actually make up stuff, whether it is consciously or unconsciously to feed that ego, and I got over the need of putting people on pedestals.

In five years I will have my bridal fashion design business up and running, and I have at least one seamstress working for me.

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Re: Does Your Blog Need its Own Domain Name?

Sebastyne — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 02:05:12 -0000

To me it was an image thing, as well as emotional thing. It just feels better having a place to call your own. :) It hasn't brought me money (apart from pennies a week) but it is mine and nobody can tell me what to do with it.
As for image, I do tend to respect websites with their own domain more. It kind of tells me that the person is serious or passionate about what they do.

Re: All The Things I’ve Lost

Sebastyne — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:47:30 -0000

What have I lost... 3/4 grand parents. One uncle. One dog (to death, she didn't run away or anything). My faith in Jesus. I've too lost some clothes. :D Lost the belief that my mom was flawless. Lost some Barbie shoes. (I think most girls have, but to me they still matter.) A ring was lost for me when I gave it to a boyfriend to wear for a night. I lost my birth control pill prescription again! Sometimes I think I've lost myself, but I'm trying to find myself again.

Re: Things Not To Do During Promo Interviews

Sebastyne — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 21:49:33 -0000

Oh, good points. For someone who is in the media as a profession, that is very important. I've been interviewed on TV and magazines several times about something as easy and innocent as Barbie collecting & customizing, and you would not think they can get that wrong and make you look like a bad bad bad person, but they can. Oh they so can.

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Re: Coming At You- The Adventures of Mariano Meerkat

Sebastyne — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 21:45:21 -0000

That is so cool. :) If I had kids, that's probably what I would attempt to do. In fact, I have a character called Purmeli, who is a little cute animal living in each of our ears pointing out beautiful and fantastic things around us - unless we ignore him and grow old and stop doing funny and kiddy stuff. That's when Purmeli gets bored of us and finds someone more fun to live in. :p I assure you he sounds cooler in a longer description.

I had him online for a while, until someone stumbled my website as a "children stories" website, and the content was normally very much not suited for children...

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Re: To Be Sexy?

Sebastyne — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 23:57:00 -0000

I found your blog through BlogCatalog today, so I don't know what you look like - apart from that little avatar and your cutsie kid photos on the discussion board, but I totally agree. Nudity WILL backfire, and is for people without talent. Certainly it won't be a problem in context of the story of the movie or play, but as an image... How many A-list actresses have a "sexed up" image? Certainly not my favourite actresses!

I honestly think that the motivation behind that email was completely different from "giving friendly advice".

Re: #45 – Go to an AFL game

Sebastyne — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 09:48:39 -0000

If you thought you knew nothing of the game coming from Queensland, try Finland for size! I didn't even know such game existed until I met my current husband. :p Now that we have lived in Tasmania for a few months I keep him updated on behinds and marks while he is cooking. :D I LOVE the game, and I don't even follow ice hockey, which is The Game in Finland. You just HAVE TO love those big marks!