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Re: More Drama

SeattleCat — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:28:08 -0000

I am not agnostic and I do believe that God cares and intervenes in our daily lives. That being said, I don't think MCK's accident was God doing anything. When we make bad choices, there are consequences. An accident, such as driving into a ditch and hitting a tree, is part of the law of physics. If you steer a car off the road, something like this will happen. I would speculate it could have been anything from texting and driving, speeding, inclement weather, an animal on the road or whatever... but the bottom line is that it might make someone consider slowing down or not multi-tasking so much. I don't think it's God punishing her or trying to teach her a lesson. In my opinion these things come down to cause and effect. That is Newton's law of motion. People spiritualize all they want to, but car accidents are subject to reasonable laws of motion. There are good people who didn't deserve to die, that have died. If you run in front of car, there will likely be no angels to lift you up and remove you from the natural consequences. Anyway, I'm sorry for MCK and I hope she's feeling better soon. I'm just so tired of seeing things like this over spiritualized. People die every day. Mck has a lot to be grateful for. Last year, 3 of my dearest friends lost young parents to cancer. One of my friends lost her almost 1 yr old daughter. All of them loved Jesus, so what can you make of that? That enough people didn't pray for them? That there isn't a god or that he doesn't care? Good can come out of bad things, but the laws of nature are not too often redefined. Eventually, there's a 100% chance you're gonna die and so will I.

Re: Answering Questions

SeattleCat — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:13:12 -0000

I just went back to read the numb post. Umm, whatever. She is like a puzzle and once you figure her out, you see through EVERYTHING. She is trying to write like this was some crazy shock. But ANYWAY, those kids in the picture that she claims are her kids' feet... there are 3 elementary age boys in that picture. There's no way that Stellan, a 3 yr old, has such big and bony feet yet. And he's not the one in cropped pants either. There's no way Stellan could be THAT MUCH taller than Locklynn. So whose kids are these??? Really?

Re: Open Floor

SeattleCat — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:18:37 -0000

It's hard to feel sorry for her in this situation. The day she called the police into this relationship, it was pretty much over. For two reasons: one) it was really a serious event that needed police involvement or two) it wasn't. And either way, it's not good. From the point that all of this stuff that should be private in your relationship becomes public, it's really, really hard to back up. My parents constantly made this mistake. People don't know how to be friends anymore with both of you if you air personal issues about the other spouse. You end up alienated and without the support you need. It's a downward spiraling cycle. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like she's trying to stir up emotions with these words and pictures and all of her agonizing online for the whole world even though this is not new info to her, it could not possibly be a surprise, and I have the feeling that if she really cared she would have changed a long time ago. She didn't. She has made some very intentional choices to be where she is now. Personally, I think this is the kind of event in your life that you share with a few close friends that will support you no matter what. I don't see the need for 100 much less 10,000 biased bystanders to be involved. Or to provoke their support and sympathy. There are two sides to every story. Very, very few people know the truth of what really happened or is happening. As for the kids, I don't think it really matters if their parents are unhealthy together or unhealthy a part. For the very reason that these two parents have an unhealthy relationship and are individually unhealthy people, they can't reconcile. They would have to personally get past their own selfishness to actually come together in a healthy relationship. I think there's a lot of baggage and a lot of it too public to recover. It is unfortunate. There were people who tried to tell her this three years ago. Finally, I think needing so much affirmation from strangers would mean nothing to me at all. I can't see how it benefits her except the clicks she needs for money. I would much rather have the truth from a friend even if it hurts, than the kisses of a stranger.

Re: Week In Review: 01/09 – 15/2012

SeattleCat — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:15:51 -0000

Sometimes I read on my phone and it's difficult to comment. I know I'm behind the times here. A few years ago we rented a house from a property manager. To be honest, it was the best thing we could find for a decent price at the time. I wasn't wild about the house. Our heating bill was awful and we didn't paint the walls or put up curtains. We lived there for 2.5 years. It was very much impressed upon me that it was our responsibility to return the house in the same condition we first occupied it or better. I was so thankful this guy decided to move to China and rent the house out for nothing. We had awesome neighbors that gave us their kids' old swing set and helped move it to our backyard. We made friends throughout the neighborhood and thankfully ended up in a great elementary school for our son. We loved it so much, we ended up buying in a new neighborhood one street over. We learned A LOT about what we did and didn't like and important things to think about when buying such as location, insulation, cost of maintenance, etc. MCKs' post about not liking anything was a bit annoying to read. No house is perfect, but perspective is everything. If I was trying to be careful with my money (like we were for the first 7 yrs we were married) I wouldn't spend money on (designer) paint, curtains, and more that are just not a necessity. Also, if I foreclosed on 3 houses... it would take a lot, a lot, a lot for me to take any action against a landlord that might make him consider finding reasons to evict me and my family. With a bad credit report, and a bad rent history, they could have a hard time finding another place to live. It certainly would make an interesting story line though.

Re: Week In Review: 01/09 – 15/2012

SeattleCat — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:14:14 -0000

Re: Diapers, Documents and Debt

SeattleCat — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 23:33:17 -0000

I'm beind in the discussion, but I have IRL friend that has four small children and she stays home with them. She runs in nice weather or runs on a treadmill in the family room for excercise. She doesn't have a dataplan, they don't eat out, and they don't drive all over every day. They have a 2002 minivan and an old toyota tercel I think. Her husband makes half of what the MCKs made per year (Or even claimed they made) and they save their money for retirement, for their kids' college, for emergencies. They are the same age as the MCKs. I admire my friend's discipline. They've made a lot of sacrifices to stay home with the kids. That's what people do when they want to stay home or prioritize time with family. It seems to me like the mcks could still save a lot of money and be healthier and more active at home. They could spend more time with IRL friends for themselves and their kids' sake. I guess I assume they don't really have IRL friends anymore.

Re: Diapers, Documents and Debt

SeattleCat — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 22:45:22 -0000

Umm, i just looked at those before and after pictures and...yeesh! So IDK about you guys, but if somebody pulled out a camera in a locker room at the gym, I would have gone straight to management and complained about it. No wonder people were looking at her funny. It seems inappropriate to me to take photographs in a locker room. I wouldn't carry my c$200 cannon powershot with me to the gym much less a $x000 camera and gear. Seems like a good place to get it stolen.

Re: Diapers, Documents and Debt

SeattleCat — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 22:27:39 -0000

So you were a JM supporter back in the early days? I wonder sometimes who is still around from the beginning. Do you remember the lady that made the perfect cookies with tiny writing and the perfect beautiful 7 layer rainbow cake? Amanda, i think? Is she still around?

Re: Diapers, Documents and Debt

SeattleCat — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 22:21:20 -0000

The issue doesn't start with people not paying, the issue starts with people not prioritizing the cost a medical insurance policy in the first place. Don't you think she could have foregone some of the monthly expenditures of gas, hotel stays, outtings, and shopping (ahem) and her I'msureveryexpensive cell phone data plan... to cover the cost of a $200-250 policy per month? A measly $3600 would have significantly mitigated these costs. And the people who will end up paying for it will be responsible patients and people who pay higher copays, insurance premiums, etc so that doctors can stay in business. The majority of these bankruptcy docs could be justifiable hardship due to the medical bills. The thing is, we've followed all of her buying, shopping, traveling, and more for four years and there has never been an indication that she prioritized necessities before wants.
Our family is not debt free. We have school loans, a car loan, and our home loan. We have made very careful decisions regarding the liabilities we have. We do not carry credit card debt and we currently have an excellent health insurance plan for which I am very grateful. I realize, at any given point, we could be just a few "emergencies" from significant debt. Even the most financially responsible people could be. Reading about MCK again reminds me that our family should be cautious to live below our means and continue saving for unexpected hardships.

Re: Open Floor

SeattleCat — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:53:57 -0000

I think I mentioned before I followed this stuff until two years ago. It's really crazy to think that in two years she hasn't really done anything more with her life and she still spends every day explaining things. It's exhausting to keep up for a few days, I can't imagine how she's done this for almost four years now. Almost FOUR YEARS.

Re: Open Floor

SeattleCat — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:48:34 -0000

Looking over the bankruptcy info, I was surprised at how little debt she had that was revolving or unsecured. The majority of her debt was taxes, medical, houses, and cars. Granted, I think she might have (grossly) misprioritized. It was a mistake (made by many people) to buy the ranch house before they sold their first house. What I can't understand is how they ever managed to get the third house after defaulting on two others unless it was with creative financing. If you have to go that route to buy something, I think a rational person might ask if it's a wise move. Nothing really suprises me with Mck and really I stopped taking anything she writes at face value along time ago. Did she buy the shoes? Were they gifted? Is it advertising? I pretty much assume that anything she does has something in it for her.

Re: Open Floor

SeattleCat — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:00:28 -0000

Did Mck make the comment about pasteurized milk having no nutritional value? So who cares if it has CAE or anything else in it? It sounds like they drink this stuff unpasteurized anyway. What's one disease over another?

Re: Open Floor

SeattleCat — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 01:29:00 -0000

It's possible the ring is on his right hand because in Germany the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. I've seen riends of ours that are American in Germany or vice versa wear a ring on both hands. But holy batman... yeah it looks like he's helping her dress or undress and either way it seems like odd timing. What guy would be dressing the bride??

Re: Positivity and Rainbows

SeattleCat — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:32:36 -0000

It has been forever and ever since I've read through these sites or commented. I'm not sure I know anyone here anymore. Not surprised with where the M's are now. It's really sad. I jumped off the crazy ride of trying to follow her and voicing my opinion back in April of 2010. I figured if I had so much free time, I should put it to good use. Now I'm halfway done with my MBA - a much better use of my time. I miss some of the people I met through these sites though. As for the M's bankruptcy, I think they key phrase I noticed was "expects income to fall due to lack of ad sales." That seems speculative and misleading. If her income in the past was what it was, it should be anticipated that it will continue at an average over the coming months. Well, whatever. I don't envy her life in any way. They have a tough row to hoe right now and 5 kids who need them.

Re: MckMama gives Financial Advice

SeattleCat — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:25:12 -0000

There are blockers that discredit pages that have nothing to do with hot topics. If someone is looking for adult sexual content, they will not land on MckMama's page because the SEO is not related to the actual content. Writing about Sparrow, Tiger, sex toys will not bring up her page for those searches. An obvious good try though on her part. 4/20 will likely bring her up since it's related to drugs.

Re: why big families are easier

SeattleCat — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:11:09 -0000

So witty! And so true! I have a lot of 4th born close friends and we're all adventurous and peace makers and competitive. I wish more people with bigger families would write like this. I read the other day that San Francisco has the least children in its city of anywhere in the US and Seattle is second. It's so sad how little we devalue families and children! Love this post! Thanks!

Re: Ask Prince Charming Anything, II

SeattleCat — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:29:04 -0000

I can never remember my log in for this and so I never, never comment any more. Meh.

Sean and I are going away for the weekend and I jokingly said the first thing we'll do is fight. Of course as soon as we get away from the kids it always turns into something like that before we really get down to what we went away for in the first place. I don't know why that is. It's like the transition is so sudden from little kids to peace and quiet that it just has to be turbulent. Such is life. Glad you had a great weekend away. I think you're normal.

Hope your anniversary is wonderful.

Cheers!

Re: honestly

SeattleCat — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 03:33:22 -0000

I'm glad that you've decided to be you. No matter how imperfect, it's sincere. As much as you shouldn't let the great things go to your head, you also shouldn't let the people who disagree with you get you down. At the end of the day, what I think or what anyone else thinks doesn't really matter. It never did.

Re: A better day...

SeattleCat — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:21:49 -0000

Happy birthday! A little late...sorry I wasn't over here sooner. Hope it was a great day.

Re: I Am Koti Hu

SeattleCat — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:37:33 -0000

Koti, Sean and I were thinking about you this week. We're praying for you - for your strength and heart - that God would continue to use you as His. ~ Cat Davis

Re: Who's on first...

SeattleCat — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 13:11:04 -0000

Currently, I'm updating all three. Originally I wanted to leave Xanga, but I've had faithful readers there for five years. None of us have officially moved on. It'shard to move on. I like Xanga's photo layout. I can pick 20 pictures and post them faster than one at blogger. I can also pick the order to lay them out instead of thinking through what I order I want them before I even start.

We've had SeanandCat for 5 years as well, but I never maintained a public blog for our family. It's only been recently that I thought I could be so vulnerable. For a long time, I was worried my parents might find info on us and find the kids. I've had to draw some strong boundary lines and I've only recently felt better about having more public information.

I started Kudzuvines to write for me what my protected posts on Xanga used to be. Kudzuvines got attacked by certain people and I had already gathered followers and then I ended up taking it down and trying to direct people to SeanandCat. In the mean time, I went back and made most, but not all, of my posts on Xanga public for the past 5 years when previously they were all protected.

Finally, I started the fourth blog because I wanted to write about my life experiences anonymously, but I must not want to because I haven't. I've come so far that I'm not sure it's relevant how much abuse and neglect I went through to get where I am. I don't know who has connected that to Kudzu and SeanandCa t and since some of the people have moved on from being abusers ( I hope) I would hate for them to read about my past and think I haven't gotten over it or start new issues for them.

So I don't expect to do anything with the fourth blog and maintaining the other three is a pain in the...ankle. I wish I could say Xanga is the place to be, but they don't have the same functionality. Ultimately I think SeanandCat will be the main blog. For now I'm cross posting to all three to see which one is my favorite. Sorry to run you around! :)

I also blog for work. I won't even tell you where so you don't have to read one more blog!

I would probably blog more if I would pick one blog and stick with it.

~ Cat

Re: He's back...

SeattleCat — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 14:32:51 -0000

Your pictures are amazing! What kind of camera do you use? We have two cannons, but both are point and shoot and not SLR.

I've done some photo editing in PhotoShop, but I'm not good at it.

I think I admire you more and more every day!

~ Cat

Re: Does this make me crazy...

SeattleCat — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:39:32 -0000

I'm not saying I agree or disagree with the link I have for you - but I've certainly changed my thoughts on subjects over the years. By that, I mean from the time I was 13 to now I hardly believe the same thing. I'm certainly not a fundamental Christian and in those days I was to a fault. To hear Billy Graham change so much since 1965 - that's 44 years - is not surprising. As history unfolds and countries change and go away and divide and come back together and divide again, so new information and science would change what we believe and how we do things and I think that brings growth.

Knowing how much I've changed in almost 20 yrs on all things religion, education, parenting, etc - it's hard for me to say that what I believe today wouldn't change in another 5 years. I try not to judge people or think my way is the only way.

So I offer this: http://debunkingchristianit...

and I think there's a lot in there that you'll love and a lot to consider.

Let me know what you think.

Cat

Re: Does this make me crazy...

SeattleCat — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:19:20 -0000

You are hilarious!

I read through some of the comments on the thread you mentioned. I called upon a friend of mine to send me a link about something related and I want to review it before I send it on to you.

~ Cat

Re: SIGH...

SeattleCat — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 02:04:10 -0000

You know actually - I've been wanting to ask your opinion on that site anyway. It's pointless being there and now it's become competitive for me. I have the right to be there and I'll prove it even if I disagree with the platform.

It's interesting that my life is so crazy sounding that it's unbelievable. I think that's one of the things that's started bothering me. It's as if people don't know that kids are abused, neglected, over worked, or that the sex trade in America is strong and thriving. The unawareness is amazing to me. I explained that to the admissions counselor at law school. Christians work so hard to "save" people like me and then it seems so unbelievable or impossible that someone could over come that situation that they tear me apart. They don't know how to handle it. I've had more issues in recent years at church - having separated from my past because church people don't seem to understand. My family isn't ever going to show up or support me. I can't produce aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents for my kids. Our life is very different from anyone I know. I hate the ubiquitous questions about where my parents are because the "perfect world" can't imagine some people are isolated or estranged from their families and it's not by their own choice.

It's part of what irritates me about the glorification of a perfect life - it devalues those of us who haven't had everything handed to us. I'm not enough any more and instead of seeing my life as a testimony - people don't believe it. Or they think I deserved it. I love that.

Life just isn't perfect...for anyone...but everyone's experience is different.

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