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Re: 31 GENDERS – NEW YORK CITY 2016

MrsMC — Tue, 09 Aug 2016 20:58:49 -0000

Good grief, get over it!! I'm a woman with somewhat mannish tendencies. You know what?? I can pee in the ladies room, check female on the paperwork, and pull up my blue jeans and get on with my life. The only people I need to discuss gender roles with are my husband and my therapist.

Re: Stop Telling Women Having Sex When They Don’t Feel Like It Is The Recipe For A Healthy Marriage

MrsMC — Fri, 05 Aug 2016 13:16:11 -0000

It's not about, "No more sex, ever." Only an idiot would think that was OK.

It's about not saying no. EVER. Because being rejected hurts a man's ego. He wanted you and you couldn't stop because dinner was on the stove?? You just rejected him. You better initiate as soon as the meal is eaten.

You have three kids and you've wanted some personal space at night for two weeks?? Keep that up and you will break his spirit. Two DAYS is too long.

He wants it, but you're bleeding heavily?? There is nothing wrong with your hands, mouth, or anus.

You don't like anal, but he enjoys the extra tightness?? Invest in an enema bag, sweetheart.

It's all about the men. That's the biological facts. Men need sex, when and how men want sex, and they need you to like it.

Appreciate their point of view. Don't ask them to appreciate yours.

Re: A day in the life of a submissive wife

MrsMC — Fri, 08 Jul 2016 10:55:37 -0000

Lived it. Ten years now. He's miserable. I no longer remember how to be anything else. I'm suicidal.

Re: Give Elsa a girlfriend? No, give the kids a break

MrsMC — Fri, 20 May 2016 21:39:40 -0000

It's a KIDS' MOVIE!!!!

#KeepElsaFrozen

Re: From a Mom: Five Tips that Worked to Calm Her Child's Behavior

MrsMC — Mon, 09 May 2016 14:31:50 -0000

Because I am autistic myself and grew up in a spectrum family, these things ARE intuitive to me. They're just how things are done. It's how I strive to parent because it's how I wanted to be parented, how I was parented a great deal of the time, and how I remember profoundly wishing my friends' parents would do it.
I also note that most of my friends loved hanging out at my house, and I don't think it was because of my autistic self. It might have been that I was an only child and had lots of toys and a Nintendo, but I know that, when I see them in adulthood, it's always how wonderful my parents and grandparents were with them that they remember and reminisce about.
It seems to work pretty well on non-spectrum kids, too. We have four (DD14, DS9, DD7 and DD4). Our son is diagnosed with ADHD, our oldest daughter shows some faint signs of autism but not enough for diagnosis, our middle daughter is completely (sometimes mind-bendingly) neurotypical, and our youngest daughter is presumed neurotypical until proven otherwise (though I suspect she might be the one to inherit ASD Level 1). Other than a brief time with our son when I chose not to use the tactics I learned and allowed myself to be pressured into using excessive punishment, heaping amounts of criticism, and expectations for instant compliance instead, I've gotten multiple comments on how well-mannered my kids are, how happy and well-adjusted they seem, and all those other things that warm a mom's heart.

Re: Stop Telling Women Having Sex When They Don’t Feel Like It Is The Recipe For A Healthy Marriage

MrsMC — Thu, 21 Apr 2016 10:38:24 -0000

How many times have you been divorced, Maria??

Yeah, there's a reason for that.

Look, I used to believe this shit. My mommy and daddy taught me that my body belongs to me, and I can do whatever I want with it.

Then I got married. It sounds nice, but it's bullshit.

Once you're married, if you want to keep him (and not find yourself a one-off rape victim when his fantasies get acted out in his sleep and no safe word can help you), you will shut up and spread your legs. You will more than shut up and spread. You will solicit sex you don't want because it's been 48 hours and you see the bulge in his pants. You will moan and groan and force yourself to beg for more. You will do Kegels while praying to God to please make it stop because he's learned that the sounds and gestures are meaningless without the vaginal contractions. You will take your mind back to that labor that stalled a third of the way down the birth canal and breathe your way through dry anal penetration. You will "consent" to BDSM because your sister, who he has a crush one, caught you flipping through her copy of 50 Shades-- even though the book only made you feel embarrassed that you're so not into that-- and told him about it, causing the hope of fulfilling his Dom fantasies to reignite. You will force a smile in the morning and tell him, in glowing terms with a purr in your voice, how much you enjoyed it.

Welcome to the real world, you dumb feminist twat. Please stop leading young women down the primrose path of "it's always OK to say no." It isn't. "I Do" means "I will," and that's reality.

Re: 8 Things American Women Must Do To Make Themselves More Attractive For Men

MrsMC — Mon, 08 Feb 2016 13:00:29 -0000

Well, you can have all of it except the heels and the "shut up." I have thoughts, I have feelings, and if you want to deal with a feminine woman, then please understand that "feminine" also includes "lots of words."
I won't ask you to shave your body hair, or tell me all about your feeeelings, or quit hanging out with the guys. You don't ask me to wear stupid, impractical shoes that are bad for pretty much every joint in my body, and let me be a woman (or at least give me time to go be a woman with other women, so you don't have to listen to it).
And, well-- I had that body when I was 23. I got that body back after the first kid. And after the third kid (not enough time to pull it off between the second and the third). After the fourth kid, pushing 40?? You can choose-- time to go to the gym (or do all those free workout videos), or a clean house every day, or a home-cooked dinner every night, or lots of interesting responses to your chosen topics of conversation, or investing a full-time job in the kids. Five options there-- you gotta pick four and let the other one go.

Re: This Is It, It Is Happening Now - Elite Scrambling As House Of Cards Starts Crumbling - "It Is Over"

MrsMC — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 11:31:55 -0000

Well, hell's bells, isn't it about time they quit showing up and expecting free food, free housing, free everything?? You carry your weight in this world, or you die. I'm not in favor of robbing people, but-- they're showing up with nothing and expecting to be given a start in a new country. When people came to America that way-- with no tools, no assets, nothing to their name to help them make a start, the way my Scots ancestors came-- they came as indentured servants, having traded seven years of their labor and their life for passage on a ship and the tools to make a start. Are we now supposed to give it away, without any demand that they contribute and without any demand that they prove they are who and what they say they are??

Re: BREAKING: David Daleiden faces up to 20 years in jail as grand jury lets off Planned Parenthood, indicts him instead

MrsMC — Tue, 26 Jan 2016 08:37:33 -0000

I admire their courage, but.
If this was a government agent trying to document that a conservative church was plotting revolution against the government, we'd call it entrapment. One standard for all, or the law is not the law.
The questions were obviously leading, and the video obviously spliced, cut, and doctored.
They should have been patient, and let PP hang themselves on their own. They will, and sooner rather than later, because they are a bunch of evil scum-sucking sickos.
If the rest of us stop panicking, executing half-baked schemes to expose them, and ending up making them look like the good guy and the victim in one go.
That's the only reason they've made it this long. Can we please stop playing this rigged game, and concentrate our efforts on making sure women have the information, the ongoing support, and the tools to make the right choice??

Re: Do we need fertility education?

MrsMC — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 11:26:43 -0000

Fertility education would not suit our corporate overlords (at least, not until they realize that there won't be an adequate 'replacement generation' of workers/consumers). Kids get in the way of earning dollars (euros, yuan) for someone else, and have a nasty habit of re-arranging your values in a way that is not good for the corporate bottom line.
I remember the reactions of my professors when I had my first child as an undergrad at 23. Serve it to say that they gave me cause to rethink, and ultimately discard, my plans of graduate and postgraduate education in favor of "being a brainless breeder."
Not sorry. Not even for a minute. I made the right choice, at least for me and my family.

Re: To whom do children belong?

MrsMC — Fri, 16 Oct 2015 06:46:22 -0000

NO ONE should have children as accessories.
And they're not the property of the community, or the state...
...or their parents. They're people, not property. They are their own property. We, as parents, are merely teaching them how to responsibly own themselves, and protecting and guiding them until such a time as they reach a sufficient level of maturity to do it themselves.
The only person or entity of which children are property, is GOD.

Re: Ultrasound videos show preborn babies singing in the womb

MrsMC — Wed, 14 Oct 2015 13:22:53 -0000

My middle daughter at 18 weeks could clearly respond to stimuli. They had a very difficult time checking her growth. Everywhere the tech would put the ultrasound wand, she would put her hand. They finally decided that a fetus that could be that combative was probably doing OK.
She was. Now she is six, small and stocky, very healthy and very stubborn. Not only are tiny fetuses capable of interacting with stimuli-- they already have a developed personality.

Re: Celibate mothers carry forward the sexual revolution

MrsMC — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 20:05:40 -0000

You know, I can understand why a woman might want the child but not the man.
I don't agree with it, but I can understand it.
I'm sure it's all the fault of feminism-- after all, who wants to offer sacrificial love to a harridan who's only out for her own self-interest??-- but it's mighty hard these days to find a man who will love a woman as Christ loves the Church.
Or even as two human beings are supposed to love each other.
Too many women see men as sperm donors and paychecks. Too many men see women as a vagina that they own.
I have a good man, and I'm no feminist, and still I've been treated as a piece of property in callous and cynical moments. Obviously, of course, I AM my husband's property to do with as he chooses...
...but having that thrown in my face certainly makes me have nice thoughts of having the kids and not the man.

Re: Life with an Aspie (How I Manage the Teen Years)

MrsMC — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 12:36:08 -0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! From an adult "Aspie" who grew up undiagnosed, back in the Stone Age before a diagnosis existed, with parents and grandparents who had to figure it out by trial-and-error and the seat of their pants (or by seeing the ways in which I was so similar to them, and remembering what worked and what didn't). You're doing it right. Even in this day and age with all the expert help and a whole library of books to guide us, so few manage to pick up on some of these critical points (patience, repetition, acceptance, appreciation, humor). Thank you for doing it!! Thank you for sharing it!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! With such an upbringing behind him, he will thrive.

Re: Do women need to have periods?

MrsMC — Tue, 22 Sep 2015 15:07:31 -0000

The longer I live, the better the "menstrual hut" looks. Frankly, I don't think I would be at all distressed if my culture chose to afford me 7 days either alone or in the company of nursing children and other menstruating women. I have regular fantasies of scraping together the funds to build myself a "menopause cabin" on some property we own back up in the hills.
I feel this way in an era of indoor hot-and-cold water on-tap, automatic washing machines, grocery stores, flush toilets, and afternoon cartoons to entertain my kids so I can catch a breath. Goodness, imagine how an Old Testament woman must have felt about it!!

I'm glad that, after a long talk with my husband (and God), I have the privilege of saying "Four is enough, and thirty-four is old enough." I am grateful that modern medicine has afforded me that capability, glad that US law gives me the opportunity to take it.

That doesn't mean that I want our cultural norms-- or God forbid our legislation-- to shove it down the throat of every woman, or to sugar-coat one side of the choice with partial truths and outright lies. It's past time that we ditched the value judgments-- on both sides-- and instead told the full and unvarnished truth and respected women's and couples' decisions, even if they don't mirror our own.

Re: Side Effects of the Pill 102: death

MrsMC — Tue, 04 Aug 2015 11:30:28 -0000

I, too, have no wish to go back to being barefoot and pregnant. I'm 37 years old, and four children is enough.
However, having taken the Pill for a year in my early 20s (and having spent half a decade repairing the depression it aggravated, the libido it destroyed, and the damage that did to our marriage), I am thankful that there are other methods that don't require wrecking my mind and damaging my body just to avoid pregnancy (since, as we all know, the Pill does nothing for STIs).
I'm grateful that my father taught me what a condom was and how to use it (and grateful that my husband was willing to use them). Would that I had learned at an earlier age to count days, take my temperature, and assess the quality of feminine mucous. We could have saved that trouble, too.
Between the Pill and closely spaced, hyperactive toddlers that I had to parent without the help of family or friends, the children were less disruptive.

Re: Most Women Don’t Deserve A Good Man

MrsMC — Fri, 19 Jun 2015 10:54:28 -0000

You know, I was NEVER that girl. I dated one guy for 18 months, until he decided I wasn't enough of a prop for his social life (he was LOOKING for "that girl;" seems like most 20-something guys are) and passed me to his buddy with the promise that I'd "put out." Said buddy was enraged when, after six weeks of dating, I wasn't ready.
Guess I should have been "that girl."
After that relationship ended, I met my husband. He was 18, I was 21. Unless I spent every waking moment at his side, in his arms, and at his service, he assumed I was "that girl." I was accused, tried, and convicted without any discussion of what I'd actually done, without any opportunity to do anything at all.
Who should I hate?? Misogynist motherfuckers who assume we're either bright-eyed willing slaves or we're "that girl"?? Maybe I should hate feminists, or spit on "that girl." God knows that, every time I see a woman who's not chained to her husband's every whim, I want to beat her unconscious with a Bible and rip her proud little throat out.
Who do I hate?? Myself. I wasn't sexy enough and social enough to be "that girl." Apparently I'm not good enough NOT to be "that girl" either.
Fuck it. When he tosses me out, I'm taking a vow of celibacy.

Re: Stephanie’s journey: a dying mother campaigns for life

MrsMC — Fri, 29 May 2015 10:46:02 -0000

I don't know, folks. I certainly don't want suicide to be REQUIRED in cases of terminal illness...

...but I'm also not OK with requiring folks with terminal illness to die the way my mother did. The death certificate lists the primary cause of death as "metastasized renal cell carcinoma" with contributing factors being " malnutrition." We didn't refuse her food; she starved to death because her cancer-ridden digestive tract could no longer process what went in.

I didn't suffer from watching my mother die. If anything, I benefitted. I learned empathy (no small feat for an autistic kid) and compassion and the importance of caring for others. We had tender moments right up to the day she died. For myself, I wouldn't trade the experience for anything (other than having her here today to enjoy her grandkids and help me figure out how to navigate this mother-of-a-teenager business).

I'm still not OK with demanding that other suffer through what she did, any more than I'm OK with demanding that they hurry up and die already. Surely there's got to be some way to carve out and defend a middle ground.

Re: The Duggars Respond to Reports That Josh Duggar Was Accused of Child Molestation - Crime & Courts, TV News, Anna Duggar, Jim Bob Duggar, Joshua Duggar, The Duggars : People.com

MrsMC — Fri, 22 May 2015 09:23:36 -0000

That's what a need to pretend to be perfect will get you.

Now, based on some of the comments... Not to mention the stuff I hear people I can PROVE are flesh and blood say IRL... The stuff I can see go down without ever leaving my tiny social circle and my dead-end small-town street...

Gee, I wonder why people would feel the need to pretend to be perfect, even to the point of causing detriment to their own and others' children.

All that bigoted and abhorrent moralizing covers something up all right-- You can see it in Michelle's eyes. It covers up the terror that a mere struggling and imperfect mortal will never be worthy of the love of other mortals, never mind God.

I'm not going to stand here and spit. That's what MAKES these messes. I will pray-- for the REAL grace of God and Man-- and I will hold out my hand to the rest of the less-than-perfect.

Re: Conceived in violence, children of Boko Haram captives may bring meaning to mothers’ lives

MrsMC — Tue, 19 May 2015 08:43:56 -0000

We all have the choice to love in the face of adversity (rape, disability, the disapproval of authority-- hey, try showing an ADHD kid patience, understanding, and loving correction instead of abuse and rejection and see how many eyebrows you raise) or hate and reject.

Make the right choice. When you're tempted to judge, to spit, to condemn, to hate-- love instead. The life you save might be the one in front of you.

Re: The last Mother’s Day?

MrsMC — Thu, 14 May 2015 15:40:33 -0000

Well, growing up with a single father (my mother died when I was 11; I was 21 when my father remarried), I had some mixed emotions about Mothers Day myself. I tried celebrating other mothers (grandmothers, aunts, friends' mothers), but it just didn't cut it somehow.

Finally I decided that, since my father was doing both jobs, he ought to get both holidays. And thus a warm tradition was born...

I suggest that same-sex parents also find a way to cope with their mixed emotions. Mixed emotions are part of life (at least after the age of 7 or so). A culture that shelters a given demographic from the discomfort of mixed emotions denies them the chance to become mature, empathic, and wise.

Talk about disenfranchisement and discrimination!!!!

Re: Motherhood: a big yes to life and death

MrsMC — Mon, 11 May 2015 01:48:46 -0000

I lost a baby at 12 weeks' gestation. I will never know he reasons for sure. Alex could have had genetic or physical anomalies incompatible with life; such is often the case with fetal death in early pregnancy. My belief, based on my observations, is that our son was lost to medical incompetence and social judgmentalness. One afternoon in 2010, I went to the ER wearing pajama pants and a t-shirt with my children in tow (I possessed only three changes of clothes and had been overwhelmed with the care of my stepmother and three children as well as having been quite ill for about two weeks; I had asked everyone I knew to watch the kids, but no one could or would help me).

Complaining of dehydration, exhaustion, and inability to eat, drink more than a few sips, or move my bowels, I requested IV hydration and help in getting to the bottom of the problem. I received fluids, and was never seen by a doctor. Instead, based on my clothing and my distress, I was labeled a drug addict and the RN threatened to have my children placed in foster care.

Two weeks later, a routine ultrasound revealed that the baby in my womb was dead, and probably had been for about 10 days. I believe that I had a colon blockage when I went to the emergency room, and Alex died of fecal poisoning.

All this is not a ploy for pity. We're OK. It is, however, a plea that you suspend the human tendency to be judgmental when you encounter a distraught, exhausted, and badly dressed person dragging many children.

I have made peace with the loss of my child. He lives in my heart; more importantly, he lives in the arms of the Allmighty. Perhaps, just perhaps, God allowed his life to begin only to end so soon so that my father ( whose sudden and unexpected death has catapulted me into the role of my stepmother's caregiver just a few weeks before the incident in the ER) could have a grandchild with him in the afterlife. If that is so, the pain and humiliation were all worthwhile.

Re: No one is winning from the world’s lack of children

MrsMC — Tue, 05 May 2015 09:08:12 -0000

Serve it to say that, as I look forward to middle age, I find myself very glad for the so-called sacrifices my husband and I have made in raising four kids and loving them as they are, ADHD warts and all. It has served my aunt and uncle well (their three have made no great achievements, but they are all close by and close to their parents). Maybe we won't get to brag about our kids' great careers. Maybe we will still be helping them out into their twenties ( or thirties). Looking at what it cost (far more than money) for us to be independent at eighteen, that's not such a bad thing.

Re: Ferguson message: Justice system unfair to minorities

MrsMC — Tue, 25 Nov 2014 06:28:20 -0000

I don't know who is guilty of what. I wasn't there, I didn't see, and I won't try to decide.
This could have been a racially motivated hate crime that was covered up by a sympathetic prosecutor. Then again, it could have been self defense.
What Ferguson has taught me is that Dr. King's dream was just that: a dream, and nothing more. People who are different cannot live together. The end.

Re: Common Core, don't copy China's test-prep culture

MrsMC — Mon, 17 Nov 2014 09:17:16 -0000

I think that an increased spirit of conformity at the price of creativity and independence is pretty much exactly what American officials are going for. Just sayin.