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Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/11/how-much-longer-will-we-tolerate-savage.html

McDaddy — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 10:45:14 -0000

Great post. In fact, I'm wondering if I could use it on my blog. I would make sure people knew it came from you...We need more posts written like this one. Let me know about the crosspost.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/11/shaniya-davis-child-prostitution-sex.html

McDaddy — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:24:57 -0000

Rippa, I was a counselor and therapist for many years, but I still can't understand why people prostitute their children and sell children. I know both are lucrative trades, but I can't get my arm around the lack of sensitivity, compassion, and love for these kids...

I don't understand; and it bothers me to know that there are such people in this world.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/11/racism-what-racism-i-aint-be-seen-none.html

McDaddy — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 10:58:26 -0000

Why don't they stop hiding behind some phony crap about birth certificates and just say it: "I DON'T WANT A BLACK MAN TO BE PRESIDENT OF MY COUNTRY!!!"

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/10/police-gone-wild-police-officer-beats.html

McDaddy — Sat, 10 Oct 2009 11:05:13 -0000

Good post, Rippa.

Sometimes you have to wonder how some people become such despicable human beings. Were they physically and mentally abused by their parents? Were they picked on by a series of bullies in school from elementary through high school?

Meanwhile, this kind of violence placed with other forms of violence in our black communities (domestic violence, gang violence) keeps us from working with each other to improve conditions in our neighborhoods. Blessings.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/09/van-jones-resigns-score-one-for.html

McDaddy — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 15:53:37 -0000

Well stated, my brother. And with you all the way

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/08/protesting-michael-vicks-return-to-nfl.html

McDaddy — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:14:34 -0000

People should break it down and keep it on the real. This Michael Vick thing has broken down on racial lines, as field negro eloquently stated. They won't admit it, but some whites can't bring themselves to have sympathy or empathy for black man.

Re: Saying My Piece: The Henry Louis Gates Arrest

McDaddy — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 14:50:27 -0000

I'm totally disgusted that a racist want apologize to Gates and The President has backtracked on his original statement, which was from his heart. If he caves in on this, what else will he cave in on, the Public Option?

The Prez was black for a night. Now, he's gone back to being just another compromising centrist politician.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/07/so-thats-it-were-just-gonna-drink-beer.html

McDaddy — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 16:46:59 -0000

Bringing this racist to the White House for beer? After caving in with this guy, what is The Prez going to cave in to, the public option. He needs to go and stay on the South Side , in one of those bad areas around Martin Luther King Drive. When thugs wanna dance around there, they don't let no minister get in their way-- even if he has the Nobel Prize!
The Prez needs to hang around there for a while. Maybe he'll look down and find on some ghetto conrete the balls he lost once he became president.

Re: Primetime Press Conference Open Thread -2

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:43:45 -0000

She did. I thought his comment was spot on; and he doesn't apologize tomorrow. He doesn't owe the cop organizations any further explanation. The cops were stupid...This is one of America's greatest scholars.

Re: Presidential Primetime Press Conference Open Thread

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:31:12 -0000

No, she doesn't look well, but she is speaking passionately. her husband is a fool, but she's really smart.

Re: Presidential Primetime Press Conference Open Thread

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:26:20 -0000

I hear you. I despise him too. He injects himself and his personal experiences into issues too much. Maybe he should just go home and watch Bill Moyers or old films of Walter Cronkite.

Re: Presidential Primetime Press Conference Open Thread

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:08:20 -0000

A brutha kicked on the mike like Chuck D or Sister Soulja. Dubya could never hang.

Re: Presidential Primetime Press Conference Open Thread

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 21:05:47 -0000

It will be enough if they get the best ideas out of committee before congress goes home for recess. If things are stalled in committees, as the GOP is trying to do, too much time will expire before they vote. By this time, Republicans and blue dog democrats will have had plenty of time to turn Americans against a public option.

Obama is smart to try to get shyte done ASAP, while he still has high ratings.

BTW, love the way he handle the Gates question. Love the fact that he threw blacks and latinos in there together. Good politically to stay in latinos, but it also shows a brutha ain't for dividing up people of color, ensuring that he get the vote of black folks and latinos, the fastest growing immigrants in the nation. Props to you, Prez.

Re: Presidential Primetime Press Conference Open Thread

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 20:44:25 -0000

Because they are making contributions in their respective committees and because they may go against their party and vote for the health plan.

Re: Black in America 2 . . . Some thoughts

McDaddy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:09:26 -0000

I'm still getting over Black America I.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/07/henry-louis-gates-jr-open-and-shut-case.html

McDaddy — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:57:04 -0000

Rippa, your post was stupid. Ridiculous...Loved it!

But seriously, you can tell my man Gates wasn't used to dealing with cops. Come on, you don't say shit to cops like "You don't who you messing with!" He's lucky they didn't handcuff him and beat him all the way down to the station.

Hey, Gates, next time you're arrested, just go quietly please. Them white cops are already pissed off that you live in such a nice house and can speak perfectly English. Keep your mouth shut and sue their asses later.

Re: The Traitors on HealthCare

McDaddy — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 11:04:22 -0000

Rikyrah: This is what it all comes down to from these sellouts point of view: How can I continue to get my "contributions" from the insurance and pharmaceutical industries while at the same time appearing "objective" or open to healthcare reform? Answer? Appear concerned about the cost. Of course, they weren't very concerned with Bush costing us billions upon billions and American lives getting us into an illegal and unnecessary war. But they're concerned about Americans getting healthcare.

We need to keep publishing how much these and other sellouts are getting who want to delay voting on healthcare or who are against the public option.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/07/top-10-reasons-why-you-should-watch.html

McDaddy — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 16:01:16 -0000

Am I going to watch it? Hey, I'm still trying to get over Black America I. I'm voting for you on the BlackWeblog. You deserve it.

Re: CNN’s Black In America 2

McDaddy — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 11:23:28 -0000

I'm sorry, Sis. I love Tyson too, but I will not be watching this program. I'm still too disappointed from the first show. Also, I personally am sick of listening to celebrities. It's fine to have a few here and there. But if you can't mix celebrity interviews with conversations with students, service station workers, women and men working temp jobs with no benefits, forget it.

If you can't indict whites for not wanting to give a brotha jobs or black so-called leaders who go from one killing to another but never build institutions so we can prosper as a people, forget it. I'm sick of programs that play around the edges but never get to the real deal.

Re: Town breaks it down….again….

McDaddy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:12:09 -0000

Who's preaching now? If you're not seeking to be understood, you're certainly not seeking to understand, at least not from the kids point of view. Here you have kids being intimidated by bullies in school, other young thugs after school and are often kept in their houses by parents; and all you can think of is to tell them what they need to do.

Listen. Find out specifically what's going on, and ask the kids what he or she think needs to happen and how you can help them. Believe it or not, they're not stupid and they'll surprise with their insights.

I know you want them to get an education, but protect them first. Form a group of men to work in shifts to wait at the bus stop; volunteer in schools and watch kids in the bathrooms, around corners, during recess and after school. Form a group to take kids to museums, bowling, to events they want to see and, of course, pizza afterwards.

Most kids just want to go to school, but they are afraid of their peers, inside and outside of school. If the kids tell on other kids, they are labeled rats which puts them in a more fearful position. The girls are afraid men of males in the home and outside of it. They have to come way before dark. And sometimes mom takes up with men who are more interested in their daughter than the mom. The biggest thing happening with black kids in inner-cities is fear; and the extent you harp on education and neglect that fact, it's to that very extent they will turn you off and go to someone they think might protect them such as a gang. And you'll still be preaching. I'm done.

The main thing about the fear-- and what makes it different from when we were growing up-- is the fact that guns are involved and kids are quite willing to use them. So all the kids know someone who has been shot or killed. Parents, who have to work, don't know about it. Teachers, who usually don't live in the community, don't know about it and don't have time to deal with it anyway.

Sometimes kids want to talk about things with us but oftentimes we sidetrack them with our sermons and autobiographies. And we don't even realize it. I wish you could hear this: kids need us to listen and believe that they mean well. They need us to cool it with the quick solutions and just be with them as they tell their autobiography.

Give yourself a test: get with a kid and see if you can go 5 minutes without preaching but asking follow-up questions...we can't talk to kids like our ministers talk to us. Preaching is their job. As parents and community people, our job is to try and understand and help our kids survive and thrive in the future.

Re: Town breaks it down….again….

McDaddy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:24:04 -0000

There you go-preaching. Not once did you mention listening. Not once did you ask, "What's going on with kids today that's different from when we were growing up?" Not once did you leave your role as preacher and try to see the world from someone's else's point of view?

As for people growing up in segregated South (apartheid), I'm one of them. But as a kid in Atlanta, Georgia, I saw more positive things there than up North. We had good schools, fine teachers and lots of black businesses. It was our misadventure with so-called integration that took a lot of those businesses away. But we had fine role models. We need to figure out a way to bring some of those role models back, people who inspire like Benjamin Mays, Janetta Cole, and Dr. King and Coretta King. We need them up North just as much as we need them down South.

Re: Town breaks it down….again….

McDaddy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:05:59 -0000

Val: You say you disagree with the first paragraph, but it's not relevant. It is. What I'm saying is that we, Obama, Cosby, blacks who have become "successful" like myself and many who come to this blog, oftentimes go back to black communities, or to a few institutions in the communities (usually a church), and talk at black people, especially young people, but say the same thing. We act like young blacks have never heard this before. We act like they're hearing this for the very first time. But everybody from mom to dad to uncle Joe to teachers to social workers to the garbage man...Jesus, even pimps on a break from slapping prostitutes tell young bucks to get an education. Then, if they go to church on Sunday, they hear it from a preacher. After a point, it has a diminishing effect, no matter who says it.

Second, I'm saying before seeking to be understood, seek to understand. Before sharing our vast knowledge of the universe, we need to gather facts. We need to listen. But we don't do this with our own kids, because we think that they're going through the exact things we went through and all we have to do is tell them to hang in there and get an education. I'm saying we should step back and hear their autobiography and stop playing the same tape of our own. If we do, we'll learn what's going on with them and how to protect and support them. In the process, we may even find a key to our own survival as a people.

No, it doesn't necessarily mean we have to move back into segregated black communities? We can do just what the Carribeans in New York did or the SE Asians did: Build where we are. If there's three black families, that's a black community in need of a barbershop, aa grocery store, an alternative school, and a salon, even if it sells nails come from South, Korea.

That's what I love about what Rikyrah said about building institutions. Kids want to be inspired, and not just listen to raps anymore. Build a bank, have some blacks folks working there and a brotha or sista who run it, and they'll be inspired. Sermons without anything tangible behind it to protect and sustain black people are lame. Kids will tell us this, if we only listen.
Building institutions within which kids can see themselves someday is what will give the dream and therefore the motivation to get a good education-- for their families and black communities and not just working for white folks who hate their guts.

But even before that, we need to hear that kids are walking in fear; and we need to find ways to protect them. It's very hard to concentrate when you're wondering how you're going to dodge a "crew" that's coming to kick your ass.

Blessings.

Re: Town breaks it down….again….

McDaddy — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 14:49:04 -0000

Very good post. You hit on why I was not impressed with Obama's speech to the NAACP. He talked about education as if that in itself would assure black success. I've worked with young blacks for years. I'd say 95% don't believe it. They believe an academic education works but for white kids. Why? Because white kids, more than not, usually have parents and friends of their parents who will help them to get a job and get started moving up escalators of success. On the other hand, they believe that white people don't want to hire them, just as they don't want to hire their dads or their moms. Research backs them up. That's why you have 49% black unemployment in New York City.

If black people build up the institutions in their own communities-- create businesses and processes where young blacks see themselves fitting in, getting a job and being a positive force in t he community-- then getting an education will make more sense, seem like a more practical idea. Right now, they don't know if they're going to live long enough to finish a GED.

Personally, I think the Obamas and the Cosbys ought to call a moratorium on all sermons about education and listen to kids for a change and see why 75% of them don't graduate from high school. If they do, they'll find out as my organization did that kids are walking around in total fear. They're afraid to ride on the bus, to wait at t he bus stop, to go out to recess, to go skating, to even hang out in their yard. And they don't think we adults are listening. They already know that it's different than when we were growing up. At least we had some adults figures looking out for us. They've told me this over and over again. They live in fear and without hope.

We need to start listening and begin t o figure out how we can protect them as we develop institutions to sustain them and us as a people

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/07/preaching-to-choir.html

McDaddy — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:16:14 -0000

Rippa: You're right. We need to hear how policy will change people's everyday life. But preaching to people has an increasingly diminishing effect, if it's not coupled with specific remedies. Accountability and responsibility are good qualities. But to talk about those over the focus on policy and a demonstrated understanding of your audience is not good.

What I keep hearing from the Cosbys and Obamas are their autobiographies. What youth and poor black folks want to know is do we understand their autobiography: what's going on with them, how much they are suffering, how we can work with them to make things better.

If you make that connection, if you show that understanding, then a discussion about accountability and responsibility will make more sense. They'll see for themselves how it all ties together. I hope that makes sense.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/07/preaching-to-choir.html

McDaddy — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:27:57 -0000

Rippa: Good post.

I've written on my blog that I am now against rich or well-to-do people, black or white, coming into black communities preaching to them about accountability and education. And here's why:
1. They act as if black people are hearing this for the first time. Actually, this is what we hear all the time. Everyone from our parents to social workers to teachers to counselors say thins during the week. On Sundays, we get it from our ministers. When the Cosbys and the Obamas come and say what we've been hearing all week for years, it sounds like overkill.

This is especially overkill with youth. As a person who has worked with all kinds of youth, including gangs, I can tell you they hate it, because it doesn't address what they are going through.

Many black youth (and some black adults too) are afraid to walk the streets, ride on the bus, even walk around the yard of their own house. They live in fear. Does Cosby or Obama address that?

Many black youth already know education is important. They just don't feel it's that important for them. Why? Because they feel whites hate them and don't want to hire them or don't want them around. Research shows that whites don't want to hire black people, especially black males. Does Cosby or Obama address that?

Many black youth and young adults have lost hope that they will be successful in life as much as their parents. They don't even know if they're going to live long enough to get an education. And they don't believe that we adults realize how it is to live in their shoes-- in fear and without hope.

People like Cosby need to call a moratorium on all sermons and do some fact-finding: find what it is that make kid of color drop out of school, join gangs, get pregnant from some thug so-called gangster. Then maybe they can begin to speak to their specific needs.

Same with us black adults. We want to hear specifics too. Blessings.