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Re: This Mormon Sunday School teacher was dismissed for using church's own race essay in lesson

Lucius Scribbens — Thu, 07 May 2015 18:28:26 -0000

Club Mo: 10 percent, you're in. Stray from the script, you're out.

Re: Ordain Women founder Kate Kelly ‘happier’ and ‘invigorated’ after Mormon excommunication

Lucius Scribbens — Thu, 23 Apr 2015 20:07:37 -0000

Who would want to belong to a club that would vandalize your personal property and shun you if you didn't belong to them? Shows the true nature of the club in question.

Re: Michigan high school yanks trans equality poster after Christian parent complains on Facebook

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 14:22:04 -0000

Ah, those silly uber-Christians thinking that everyone is, or should be Christian or at least live by their standards or that a public school is their church. It's okay to offend others so long as they themselves are never offended.

Re: Backlash is swift and furious after Indiana pizza restaurant owner brags about ‘no gays’ policy

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 14:17:42 -0000

Hmmm... I wonder if they also won't cater a wedding where the bride is not a virgin? Deuteronomy 22:13 - 21

Or cater a wedding where the bride or groom's first marriage blew-up because they were cheating on their spouse? Deuteronomy 22:23 - 24 and Leviticus 20:10

Or cater the wedding of someone of another religion? Deuteronomy 13:5 - 10 and 17:2 - 5

Or how about a woman who enters their restaurant wearing pants? Will they refuse her service? Deuteronomy 22:5

Or someone who is wearing a synthetic UnderArmour shirt and cotton jeans or maybe a wool jacket? Deuteronomy 22:11

They seem to be really picky about which "sins" outlined in the Bible they choose to be offended by.

Re: Utah Governor disappointed, but ready to uphold same-sex marriage

Lucius Scribbens — Mon, 06 Oct 2014 16:31:37 -0000

And who gets to decide who's qualified and who isn't? You and some that think like you?

Re: Utah Governor disappointed, but ready to uphold same-sex marriage

Lucius Scribbens — Mon, 06 Oct 2014 16:28:25 -0000

"Herbert said the fight was worth it, saying as governor he must defend
the laws on the books and he personally believed that states should have
the right to define marriage."

What Herbert, Reyes and these other "traditional marriage" supporters don't understand, or maybe they do and they don't want to acknowledge in this instance, is that the Constitution clearly states that rights given to one group can not be withheld from another, and that the majority doesn't get to vote on the rights of the minority. Constitutionally the only way to make same sex marriage illegal is to make all marriage illegal.

Re: Episode 407

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 27 Aug 2014 00:19:41 -0000

In regards to the gentleman who's girlfriend wants to open-up their relationship and he doesn't want to:

After over a decade in open relationships such as in the swinging lifestyle and several polyamorous relationships, I've come to the opinion that overall it isn't a great idea to fuck other people if you aren't fucking each other. Usually this scenario is one person looking for an out from the relationship.

Now that's not saying that all open relationships are that way. I know several companionship marriages (where the sexual lust is gone but they are such great friends and partners that they can't imagine a daily life without each other) where opening-up their relationship has worked-out well. But in my experience these are the exceptions to the rule.

Opening-up your relationship to fix something almost never works-out unless the relationship is VERY strong in other areas. I've seen many couples get into swinging thinking that fucking other people will magically fix the years of neglect they bestowed upon their own relationship. It does for a while, maybe a couple of years. But eventually the relationship implodes, they admit that it is too far gone and they go their own separate ways.

A sexually open relationship is like the icing on the relationship cake. But if the cake underneath doesn't have all the ingredients to make it solid, it will still crumble. The icing can't hold it together.

Re: Episode 407

Lucius Scribbens — Tue, 26 Aug 2014 23:59:07 -0000

As Dan said, many parents today had cold feet about having kids and are great parents. I personally resisted having my first child until we'd been married 5 years. I didn't want kids. Or so I thought. After my first wife and I divorced (when my daughter was 6) I met another woman who had a 3-year old. We hit it off and were married two years later. I resisted having a kid for 2 years, but she finally wore me down and along came another daughter. This one was even more special than the first in that I really understood now what was at the end of the pregnancy and it was exciting. Today my kids are 23, 20 and 12 and I can't imagine a life without them and I can't believe why I was so hesitant to have kids in the first place.

Re: Episode 407

Lucius Scribbens — Tue, 26 Aug 2014 23:54:16 -0000

Keep in mind that the Affordable Care Act as we have it now is just a shell of it's former being before the Republicans got hold of it and it was stripped of all it's substance to get the bill passed. The problem with it that private insurance companies like Blue Cross Blue Shield, United Healthcare, Altius and others are administering the plans. These are the same companies who have been screwing us for years.

The ACA has helped millions, though. I'm sorry it hasn't been able to help you.

Re: 5th Planned Parenthood Clinic Exposed For Giving BDSM Advice To Underage Girls [VIDEO]

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 13 Aug 2014 19:41:50 -0000

So an adult actor walks into a medical clinic posing as a 15-year old girl and asks direct questions about BDSM and the clinic worker answers her with factual information, as she should, and everyone is up in arms. But what do you expect? These are the same people who believe the only discussion we should have about sex should be "Don't have sex before you're married or God will smite you."

Re: 5th Planned Parenthood Clinic Exposed For Giving BDSM Advice To Underage Girls [VIDEO]

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 13 Aug 2014 19:38:43 -0000

Margaret Sanger did not try to get rid of blacks. That falsity was spread by Angela Davis, a radical Black Power activist who was furthering her "All White people hate Black people" agenda (Davis was also leader of the Communist Party USA). Sanger was part of a project to provide birth control to poor African-Americans. Her work was praised by Martin Luther King, Jr. and W.E.B. Du Bois, a founder of the NAACP sat on the board of Sanger's Harlem clinics, which employed all Black staff, doctors, nurses, receptionists, etc.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Sun, 10 Aug 2014 00:13:26 -0000

I'm not angry, just amazed at how utterly insane you really are.

Utah's rate of divorce is 4.1 per 1,000 in population. The national median divorce rate is 4.0 per 1,000. So Utah is in the upper 50% of states not the bottom 50%. In fact, 8 of the top 10 states with the highest rate of divorce are red states (AR, AL, ID, WV, KY, TN, MS, AZ)

7 of the top 10 states with the highest teen pregnancy rate are red states (NM, AZ, TX, MS, AR, GA, TN, and SC), and 7 of the bottom 10 states with the lowest teen pregnancy rate are blue states (IA, MA, WI, MN, ME, VT and NH).

You said Liberal women are baby killers. 56% of women in the U.S. voted Democrat in the last election. Therefore, by your statement you believe that 56% of women in the U.S. are baby killers.

Polygamy is accepted in 4 out of 5 cultures in the world, not just among black people. I don't think there are many blacks in the FLDS and Middle Easterners are not African.

I would like to see your data on Liberal men rejecting Liberal women. I don't think it exists.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 16:51:28 -0000

Only if you believe in the devil. If you don't, it's just a cool illustration and has nothing to do with my moral compass and opinions about what is right or wrong.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 16:20:51 -0000

You really believe that line of crap, don't you? You really believe that 56% of women in America are "deranged baby killers"? And that Liberal men "reject these women and the relationships always have problems and inevitably fail"?

So why are so many Liberal women married if they are all being rejected by men because "they are not viable mothers"?

Why are so many polygamist men Conservative socially and politically?

Why is Utah, the reddest state in the nation, above the national average for divorces if this is a Liberal problem? This is the state that has voted Republican by at least 19 percentage points in every election since 1964.

Why is it that red states on the whole have higher teen pregnancy rates, higher divorce rates and consume more pornography than blue states? It would seem that those that lean to the left have more traditional family values than those that lean to the right.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 15:15:52 -0000

I think what so many fear is that their spouse would want an open relationship, that they would be forced into it or potentially lose their spouse. So they try to control their fears through controlling others who they see as a threat to their personal way of life, and they sell it through saying it's what's best for society at large.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 15:12:11 -0000

That does not means it's been debunked, and it sure isn't a fantasy. It just means that for last thousand years monogamy has been the Christian-influenced social order and people have become to accept it as the way it's always been or the only way it can be. Please remember that until 1,100 CE Christianity was okay with polygamy (at least of the polygyny kind) and many priests and bishops had multiple wives. The move to monogamy was a financial decision on the part of the Catholic Church because claims to the Church's wealth by the heirs of all these polygamist clergy members had all bankrupted the Church.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 15:05:07 -0000

As others have pointed-out, the author is confusing non-consensual open relationships with consensually open relationships. Honesty with deception. Infidelity with fidelity.

Sure, 9 out of 10 American's judge cheating to be wrong, however more than half of couples experience it during the duration of their relationship/marriage, whether this infidelity is discovered or not. These people are in non-consensual open relationships, whether they know it or not.

So Americans talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk. Whether or not they disapprove of cheating. More than half have, are, or will cheat on a spouse, regardless of what they tell a pollster. Sure they think it’s wrong, but they still do it.

By the way, people in open relationships such as swingers, polyamorists, monogamish, etc. also feel cheating is wrong. But cheating involves dishonesty and all consensually open relationships practice honesty and disclosure of other relationships. Everyone involved is aware of everybody else and everyone is okay with it.

And yes, many homosexuals are openly non-monogamous, but non-monogamy amongst heterosexuals is just as high, it’s just not as open, so it’s not as visible as with gays.

Then what of those who are not married? Many polyamorists choose not to be married to anyone. Your argument of infidelity becomes invalid if you associate sexual exclusivity and fidelity with a marriage license.

Finally, let’s look at infidelity. Infidelity doesn’t mean just a breach of sexual exclusivity. The premise of infidelity is a breach of trust or an act of disloyalty. If one want’s to project that onto sexual exclusivity, great. But it’s much more than that. I am very loyal to my partner(s). I am very honest with them. I don’t breach the trust they have in me and I always have their back. Always. To the exclusion of anyone outside our relationship. That sounds like fidelity to me. It sounds like faithfulness. Don’t you think?

I do agree however, that as soon as people start being honest with themselves about the disconnect between their beliefs and their actions, and realize they are the people that they stand in judgment of, the disapproval of consensual open relationships will fall far and fast, though disapproval of cheaters will remain just as high.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 14:13:10 -0000

And yet it is all me Conservative friends who complain they either never get laid, or they're not getting laid like they wish. I rarely here my Liberal friends complain about their sex life.

Re: Is monogamy on the way out? - The Week

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 06 Aug 2014 14:08:47 -0000

Actually it is. The first 200,000 years of Homo Sapiens is full of polyamorous-like, communal hunter-gatherer tribes where everyone in the tribe depended on everyone else for their survival. And this included pair bonding without sexual exclusivity. It wasn't until the advent of organized agriculture and the idea of property rights and fences around said property and isolation of families because they were self-sufficient and organized religion that monogamy became somewhat the norm. At least for women. Men were always allowed to have more than one wife or wives and concubines, but women were expected to be monogamous. The original One Penis Policy. It was through mutual cooperation, and the unity that open sexuality provided in our early years on this planet that children were successfully raised and we survived as a species. It takes a village (or tribe) to raise a child.

Re: Episode 404

Lucius Scribbens — Thu, 24 Jul 2014 11:42:53 -0000

For the woman who is entering a LDR and is afraid her boyfriend will cheat, but she knows she won't. I would tell her "You can't be sure of that". At this time she doesn't see herself breaking the rules of their LDR, but she really doesn't know where she is going to be in a year or who she's going to meet or where their relationship will be.

I believe that LDR's don't work. Maybe one in a hundred do, but the vast majority don't. A few months away from each other and the lust subsides and there is other people you're around all the time. So if someone was looking at one, I, like Dad, would suggest keeping it open-ended and maybe a DADT agreement.

Re: Episode 404

Lucius Scribbens — Thu, 24 Jul 2014 11:37:34 -0000

I think her real life experience and opinions are good. She has some different opinions than Dan, which gives greater perspective to someone's situation than just one opinion.

Re: How affairs make my marriage stronger

Lucius Scribbens — Sun, 25 May 2014 13:26:00 -0000

You're right, it seems it may not be working for her. But she needs to be the decider of that, not us. That is my point.

Re: How affairs make my marriage stronger

Lucius Scribbens — Wed, 21 May 2014 13:48:14 -0000

I should never read the comments.

What I'm seeing here is a whole lot of people who have to stand in judgement of someone, anyone, in order to add justification and validity to their own lives. A bunch of insecure people that must feel "above" someone else in order to exist.

Her relationship works for her. It may not work for you. That doesn't make it wrong, it just makes it wrong for you. This is not adultery. It is not infidelity. It is not cheating. It is an agreed upon relationship structure that works for them. Your mileage may differ.

I also have to wonder how many that are throwing stones have had, are having or will have an affair themselves? Infidelity occurs in 6 out of 10 marriages that last over 10 years. Only about half of those indiscretions are ever discovered. Some people carry-on decades long affairs without their spouse ever knowing - both men and women.

Yet, we are so quick to lay judgement.

Re: Rutgers Hosts Female Orgasm Workshop

Lucius Scribbens — Tue, 11 Mar 2014 12:01:05 -0000

Funny how you are judging the women in these scenarios but for the most part giving the men a free pass. It takes two to tango. You're judging the women for acting like men or that it's their job to police men's sexuality. It's a "Boys will be boys, women will be sl*ts" attitude that is too prevalent in our society.

Re: Rutgers Hosts Female Orgasm Workshop

Lucius Scribbens — Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:57:13 -0000

Woman can orgasm the first time they have sex with someone whether it's a one night stand or someone they've been dating for a few months.