http://disqus.com/by/KittyCleopatra/enWed, 09 Dec 2009 14:01:00 -0000http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/12/09/women-who-wont-date-men-with-kids-are-the-scum-of-the-earth/#comment-25314582<p>I've had two previous relationships with men that had children. I was scared and nervous at first. In one relationship the mother of the child was very bitter, she wouldn't let my ex see his son, she kept dragging him into court trying to get more money. I just tried to be supportive, but it was difficult and it was a strain on our relationship because he was always stressed out and I didn't know what to do. She didn't want me near her son, I once took him to a ballgame and she found out and came to my apartment raising hell. It's not why we broke up, but I can understand why a woman may be leery of getting involved in a relationship with a man with a child because he is linked to this person for the rest of his life, and if his relationship with the mother of his child is in a bad place, it can make things very difficult. (And no, I don't believe that he was sleeping with her. She was just a very hurt,bitter,angry person. IMO)</p><p>On the other hand, in my second relationship with a man with a child, we had no issues. I met the mother of the child early on in the relationship, we discussed the kids (they had 2 daughters) we had a really honest conversation, she let me know that she wanted to be the one to have certain conversations/experiences with them "first". (boys, salon visits etc.) But she had no issues with me spending time with her daughters because she took the time to get to know me. It was great, we communicated and had an understanding, she wasn't caught up on him, she just wanted to make sure I would respect her, and her role in the family. I did, and she in turn respected me.</p><p>One other point I'd like to make is that I, being the child of divorced parents know what its like to have a new person come into your life (As a child) in the form of your parents significant other. I had a really hard time with it and I gave the men who tried to date my mom, and the women who dated my father-hell. So as a result I was very reluctant to date men with kids prior to these two experiences because of my fear of being able to gain the trust and respect of the child. But in the end when I put my fear aside, I learned that all of these things can be worked out if there are genuine feelings, respect and most of all good communication between two people.</p><p>Are SOME women selfish? Of course. Do ALL women have shallow materialistic reasons for shying away from a pre-packaged family? No. Some have valid concerns, call them insecurity or whatever else you like, but there are some things you just have to work through on your own before your ready to try something new. And seriously involving yourself with someone who has a child is a very big deal and shouldn't be taken lightly. I would date a man with kids again, but now I know what kind of situation I want, and how to handle certain things and more importantly what kind of conversation I need to have with him right from the beginning.<br></p>KittyCleopatraWed, 09 Dec 2009 14:01:00 -0000http://www.sportaphile.com/2008/07/25/i-want-to-see-the-green-bay-packers-crash-and-burn-this-season/#comment-1011416<p>I think Brett needs to sit his ass down somewhere. You said you were retiring, so retire dammit! How are you going to stand up in front of the world and say you can't do it anymore and you don't have it in you to prepare for the season and just a few months later , you decide b/c you thew some passes to some JV squad, now you want to play again. I hope he does come back. And I want somebody to lay his ass out. He'll wish he stayed retired then. How long is that dude to supposed to ride the pine b/c Brett doesn't know what he's doing? Those crazy ass cheese heads in GB are going to love him regardless but the fact that he was even willing to consider going to the Vikings is a joke. </p>KittyCleopatraSat, 26 Jul 2008 21:31:45 -0000