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Re: Officials: Transgender Girl Moved to Male Facility

K_Dru — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 10:28:19 -0000

This child has not been charged with anything. She may have used violence (other articles have convinced me that it's a possibility that she has, in a retaliatory capacity) but she's been kept in solitary for months without a trial. Whatever she's done, for whatever reasons, that's a violation of several constitutional rights. A lot of children with troubled pasts have attacked their "caregivers", but this level of mistreatment is uncommon. Given the high prevalence of mistreatment of trans individuals within the justice system, I don't think we can discount the probability that that is why. She may not be a perfect angel; but nobody is. And nobody deserves what's been happening to her.

Re: Episode 371

K_Dru — Wed, 04 Dec 2013 08:03:59 -0000

Uh, yeah. That's my POINT. My disability is a thing that eats money. Being trans is a thing that eats money. Neither of these things cancels out the need for all the usual stuff that goes along with being human, like transportation. Do you know what transpeople lucky enough to get insurance at all have to spend on that stuff? I do. It often results in poor diet, I assure you.

I'm just saying anything out of the ordinary has financial repercussions. Repercussions that people like the lady caller, and yourself, have obviously not considered if she can suggest he not, say, buy an item of clothing and you can compare this to BUYING A CAR.

Re: Episode 371

K_Dru — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 21:22:18 -0000

Just finished listening to the micro episode; haven't picked up the season yet but my brain just snapped on the last caller to call in regarding how saving up eight thousand dollars shouldn't be that hard...

Um... there's no sugar coating my reaction here... GAH!

Yeah, not for normal people maybe. I have a physical disability. It eats funds. I need stuff other people don't need. I need help with things and I have to pay or barter people to do them for me. I have frail health and miss work. Saving money is effing hard when your needs are not that of normal people. You need all the normal things that people need, and then you need whatever you need because you're you in addition to that.

I know enough transpeople to know this applies to them too. They need medicine, and oodles of therapy before they can even be considered for any surgeries in the first place. And never underestimate the ability of prejudice to impact your income. Getting a job in the first place when people find you odd is insanely difficult. Then say you get targeted in such a way as forces you into a legal battle. THAT can crush your finances.

Bottom line; you could hear the pain in the original gentleman's voice. I wanted to hug him through my speakers. Can anyone honestly think that skipping the occasional luxury hadn't occurred to him?!

Re: Episode 350

K_Dru — Tue, 09 Jul 2013 21:05:30 -0000

I thought it too. I mean yeah, some people have a condom aversion but if someone gets rid of all birth control, it doesn't seem unreasonable to think that what they're after IS a birth.

Re: Episode 348

K_Dru — Sat, 29 Jun 2013 00:17:06 -0000

I'm not convinced you're right, but even if you are, that's still creepy as hell. If there's a nephew, that house is fucked up and has no boundaries anywhere in it. If there's no nephew, that man is fucked up all by his lonesome and has no boundaries because WHY WOULD YOU TELL SOMEONE SOMETHING LIKE THAT?!

Re: Episode 345

K_Dru — Thu, 06 Jun 2013 20:20:18 -0000

All anybody's asking them to do is adhere to the rules they already have in place. That they are reluctant to do so is a bit revealing.

Re: Episode 345

K_Dru — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 21:27:16 -0000

Dan came nowhere near saying that most men are violent towards women. But it's definitely culturally OK to talk like you would be, and if that continues to be the case, women are going to continue to be veeerry careful whom they take home.

Now I'm going to earn some downvotes here, and go further than Dan. One third of women have been sexually assaulted, says the stat. There is not some secret cabal of rapists going through hundreds of women a night each...so it follows that a fair number of men have committed some kind of sexual wrongdoing. Not anywhere near most, but you're bound to know a few.
Argue if you want, but I'm not the only one who's done that math and found the odds unfavorable. An experiment. Guys? Do you need proof women don't trust you? Call out to one after dark, outdoors. See how that works out for you.

Re: Episode 344

K_Dru — Mon, 03 Jun 2013 10:26:01 -0000

One thing I don't see being mentioned... yes, many of us go out to meet people, potentially for romance. That is all fine. But I've got to say, even if I'm into someone, I do not want them grinding against me, touching the small of my back, stroking my hair, asking inappropriate questions or any of the rest of it. If I WAS into them, I'm not anymore if they do that before we've exchanged phone numbers at the least. Treating me like I'm already yours before I know your last name displays some seriously poor judgment. (and we heard an awful lot of examples of that on this show.)

Re: Episode 339

K_Dru — Thu, 25 Apr 2013 20:14:44 -0000

Actually if I buy a soda I'm drinking it for two DAYS. Sweetness overload is great and all but I achieve that with four ounces.

Re: Episode 339

K_Dru — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 22:34:10 -0000

I really like the longer format. I also like that those of us who grew up before the internet can probably figure it out for the most part. I got it in one and I'm not particularly good at tech.

Now I'd like to comment on something in the magnum version. I like the advice Dan gave to the girl who wants someone to love her DESPITE her size instead of BECAUSE of it. She clearly regards her body as a fatal flaw that needs to be overlooked instead of prized, and I hope that eases with time and maybe therapy. But he compared her attitude to how those of us who qualify for the attentions of devotees feel about said devotees. I feel like I need to explain this again.

Speaking for myself, I have a disability. If you're initially attracted to me because of it, that's cool and I can get along with that, as long as we prove compatible in other ways. Why would I hate you for being attracted to me? When this stops being the case, and boy does this ever happen a lot, is when what the person is attracted to is the perception that I am less than they. That I will NEED them in ways healthy adults don't typically need each other. You like my physical attributes? Awesome, let's go for coffee and see how that goes. You like feeling good about yourself for seeing value in me and play the martyr with your friends for doing so? Then take a hike. You forcibly assist me with a task I could have handled myself (crossing the street is a real life example, here) because you get some gratification out of feeling like you saved the day? Take a much faster hike because when I catch you, you're gonna be sorry.

Taking this back to the realm of size, it's the difference between someone who's into a BBW and is unapologetic about that; and those assholes we hear far too much about who treat the BBWs they're attracted to with all the redirected self loathing they can muster.

Re: Whither the Full-Length?

K_Dru — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:13:43 -0000

I cant speak for the world, but shorter albums are all right too. As long as I don't have to download them. I will lose my aversion to such things when MP3s stop sounding like they were recorded through felt in a tin can. Which begs the question, you did mention a few CD copies of Recursions being made available, yes?

I do kind of understand the questions at hand, here. I paint, and make my own media. The work I do takes months, but every teenager on deviantart churns this stuff out two or three pieces a day. The people who get hired are those with a firm grasp of overnight photoshopping. The answer I have come up with for myself is that one has to put out random sketches (remixes? Live tracks?) now and then, but fine compositions should not be abandoned altogether. There are people out there who still appreciate the extra effort. Of course, those people might be as happy with a small frame as a mural- since what you're discussing is not an issue of quality but of quantity.

Re: Whither the Full-Length?

K_Dru — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 13:43:52 -0000

::::tap, tap::: This thing on? OK. HI, I've been an insomniac lately and just found your blog as a result. I was a tiny bit alarmed by this post, because I hate MP3s (I can hear the difference and marvel that not everyone can) and I listen to albums more than any other format although I do enjoy Pandora. My friends and I all use Pandora as a way to find new albums to buy. So yeah, we're still out there. If I like a song, I'll buy the album. I know these things take time and am willing to wait. Just thought I should chime in for those of us whose taste is not dictated by whatever's being twitted about right now.