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Re: Read The Devastating Letter by a Harvard Sexual Assault Survivor

GamerUK — Mon, 07 Apr 2014 13:45:54 -0000

It's bewildering to me that people capable of eloquent discourse are missing the point(s) while pointing fingers. They seem to me to be that:

1-To acquire a better comprehension of a situation, where possible, take a large sample of data, look at the source of those various datum. From the sampling use your critical thinking ability to reasonably outline probable fact. Sure the BBC, AJ, RT and others will have a bias on what they share, as suits their backers/political leaning/advertising, but knowing their influences will help lessen/remove that bias and reveal 'probable' Truth.

2- I have no knowledge of Harvard, it's policies or it's resources. However, if I were to speculate...

A woman at Harvard claims to have been sexually assaulted. Because of the apparently limited (zero?) action taken to mitigate consequences to her, or provide her with suitable help from a trained counselor, she has (allegedly) suffered mental anguish. The education she is paying for, or will have to pay for, through the next 5-30+ years, has been seriously hampered and we as a society keep losing some of our brightest talent due to what? A fear that our beloved pillars of education may be tarnished by scandal?Hearsay?Lack of restitution to victims? or maybe that the Alumni will stop sponsoring future programs?

Schools, should be a place of learning. Period. Students of any age, sexuality, sexual persuasion, gender identity, height, weight, race, creed, colour, physical ability or religious belief should be able to study without fear of assault, belittlement or prejudice. I can't place blame on the individual faculty members, but rather ask of the governing body, "what do you already have in place as resources, on campus and off, both internal of the University along with external and independent for both students and faculty who report sexual assault/rape and sexual harassment?"

If you don't have multiple resources among various internal bodies and external agencies then a task force is a great start, but in this day and age, somewhat pathetically late.

Re: Texas Congressman on Shutdown: Veterans Could Have Afforded to “Make a Small Sacrifice”

GamerUK — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 22:32:18 -0000

I'm still wondering how the Democrats would have been able to negotiate to re-open Government when on October 1st 2013 the Republicans introduced an amendment to House Rule 22, clause 4 that ensured ONLY the Majority leader or their designee could forward a motion to dispose any amendment (House resolution 368)

Re: Creature Feature: Femmale Fatale, An Interview with Sophia Scott

GamerUK — Wed, 05 Jun 2013 13:38:35 -0000

I think it's awesome how you project your personality. I truly appreciate that by being uniquely and amazingly yourself that you keep me (& I suspect many others) off balance with regards to thoughts about gender & sexuality, in a state of almost constant re-evaluation. For that alone, Thank You.

Re: A Christmas haunt? Itâs for charity | The Salt Lake Tribune

GamerUK — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 12:43:26 -0000

Dear TexasWarlord (what a great choice of user ID for a Christmas Rant, not that mine is much better). I Love you, and wanted to share something in your post with everyone: Thank You for the reminder. *I* am going to give it special attention!

"If you want to celebrate My birth, just GET ALONG AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER."

Thanks again, GamerUK

Re: Bill: Make Utah schools report how they teach values | The Salt Lake Tribune

GamerUK — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 07:17:08 -0000

I notice the Bill doesn't show how local/Federal Government will provide the funding for additional accreditation or testing of these values. Maybe when the funding becomes available we can expect schools to show how civic responsibility is encouraged.

I always thought it was parents who instilled moral values into children. Teachers have enough to do just helping kids get through school anyway seeing as UTAH has one of the lowest dollar amount per child spent on education in the entire United States.

Re: Traditional Relationships

GamerUK — Tue, 11 May 2010 23:06:15 -0000

I like to sample the product in case it's sour (or at least not right for my palate & vice versa). So far all the vintages I've selected have had their own wonderful 'bouquet'.

Re: Traditional Relationships

GamerUK — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 16:21:05 -0000

Traditional 'man marries woman and lives happily ever after' is great if that's how your relationship dynamic identifies with regard to gender and roles. It's hardly typical these days, even if you only consider 'man meets woman and they cohabit happily ever after'. But with divorce and separation still being a very possible outcome within just a short time frame, hardly realistic.

Then we get to consider same-sex partnerships, and they seem to work as well as 'traditional' married couples or couples co-habiting. I don't have much experience with multiple partner dynamics. Some good friends have a poly relationship which works very well for them, but I know of others which simply don't work out as initially envisioned or simply have torn themselves apart. My personal opinion of poly relationships is that they require far more effective communication and compatible partners than with 2 person relationships, and are more challenging (but more rewarding when successful?).

If you are in a relationship that works for you and your partner(s), then I would love to see equality of rights and benefits for you.

To throw a 'fly in the ointment', I have seen people who 'can' marry do so just so they can continue to be seen as 'good people' by their peers/religion and fuck each others brains out. When they haven't taken the time to get to really know their partner I've seen on several occasions this leading to either a brief marriage or an unhappy long term relationship. It could be argued that having certain religions encourage that morality, it is leading to a certain self-destruction of 'traditional' realtionships, just for the sake of gratifying a few basic human needs.

Re: When do you call it? (Polyamory)

GamerUK — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 20:09:48 -0000

Interesting reading. I'll take some time to think and then re-read. I would say that there are a couple of people repeating what they are saying in an order to clarify and defuse any concerns about counter comments or positions.

To be honest I'd just post a reply and not justify them at this point, it's kinda of detracting from the actual discussion, which has some points I for one need to think more on.

Re: Written Demons

GamerUK — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 15:50:39 -0000

It was an interesting recording session for sure; another energetic exchange. I have some ideas I want to pursue and think a camera-person would be an advantage to avoiding some limitations (insert evil grin)

Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

GamerUK — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:13:18 -0000

@zephyrsky. Language barriers can be tough. As a Brit living in the USA, I find the accent is an awesome ice-breaker and open invitation for people to comment or start a conversation. I'm sure you'll become more fluent though *grin.
Being shy doesn't help, but at least with online forums we can start to make friendships that can lead to real-life meetings.

GamerUK

Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

GamerUK — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:56:51 -0000

Oh Woe is me, I try to be the voice of reason....it's my background. If ever I rant it'll be accompanied by buckets of blood and cries of female lamentation. Oh, wait...wasn't that the original concern with Tut's scene description??

Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

GamerUK — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:09:14 -0000

@Belgian subbie - While I wasn't in the last podcast due to work constraints, I'm glad you're enjoying our slice of BDSM.

@TheReal - It seems your main concern here (apart from belittling the panelists and calling into question the competence of Tutivillus) and a level of disagreement between our understanding of SSC and RACK is a promotion of unsafe BDSM practices that will give all practitioners of Kink a bad name?

While the scene didn't mention implied consent, that is an integral part of many established Kink relationships. Consent, based on the knowledge about a partners skill-set and personal ethics, is often 'a given' between partners in fluid bonded relationships. It's really a shame you didn't ask a few questions before you started criticizing, and resorting to name calling. That would have been a better way to educate.

Maybe you'll accept the invitation to participate in Sundays podcast or if unable, email us at Dungeonplace@gmail.com

I'd be interested to better understand where you're coming from, bearing in mind that when many people recount a tale, they don't provide all the details which surround it. Scenes like the one described by Tutivillus serve to illustrate a topic, not specifically teach.

And for the record, I too would block your repeated posts, despite the content, it is SPAM!

GamerUK

Re: The Hazards of Podcast Multi-Tasking

GamerUK — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:25:09 -0000

I think we should leave your ass in the fire, for no other reason than entertainment value of our esteemed listeners! Oh, now there's a thought....

Re: STDs in America – Be AFRAID!

GamerUK — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 12:26:03 -0000

ONE in FIVE !!!! So, get tested to make sure you're not that ONE. If you're positive, get treatment if it's possible, tell your partner when it isn't and TAKE PRECAUTIONS. (yes I know telling someone isn't going to be easy, but better that than screwing up another Life, IMHO).

*Rant ON*
And most importantly, for the love of all, BETTER SEX ED. in Schools. UTAH, WTF are you thinking????? If you don't tell the kids about options other than abstinence (which they are NOT going to listen to, they're kids with hormones) then you WILL be picking up the tab for STD's for MANY MANY years to come. Stop bickering about morality issues, and deal with the PROBLEMS.
*RANT OFF*

Re: Cuff ‘em

GamerUK — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:38:25 -0000

Cuff's! I have a wonderful rigid set (British Police style) that are not only wonderful as a bondage set, they also allow me to exert some pain compliance with a small twist which raises the one restrained to tiptoes or as far as their knees *Insert evil grin*

Re: The Negotiation Class

GamerUK — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:41:40 -0000

I tell the person I'm negotiating what I want. They ask me for what they'd like and we bargain until we reach middle ground that will stretch one or both of us.

Negotiation varies depending on whom I'm negotiating with. People new to me have a more in-depth discussion and it's more of what is included. With familiar play partners, negotiation can be brief and more along the lines of what to exclude (assuming one of us would be inclined to 'take advantage' of what's unsaid).

Health concerns, time constraints, visible marks are all often important. Marital status can be a concern (I don't like unforeseen drama). Drug and alcohol use is discussed and to the ladies "are those things really all you?" (in a polite way) if I was thinking about vigorously slapping, squeezing or piercing breast tissue.

I like to have coffee and just chat about all the things I want from, and for my play partners. Actually, putting someone at ease before beating and chaining them may well make me a better negotiator than I realize after all!
(Note:Opinions vary lol)

Re: Creativity Fail

GamerUK — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 22:13:41 -0000

Actually, let me suggest a trip to Moab! I remember now why I always love the (not too crowded) solitude - After standing, sun on face and wanting to tear off clothing to embrace the persona that is my ID, I repeat, Moab - Creativity Central!

Re: Creativity Fail

GamerUK — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 11:43:18 -0000

It's not that I lack inspiration, more that my thoughts are often disjointed in such a way as that when I start pursuing a thread, it peters out part way through. I have several incomplete works in progress that I revisit. It allows me to occasionally complete in mass, or at least add a few words. The problem I find with this approach though is that if I don't leave notation about where I'm heading with a subject I can totally change the initial flow and that's not always a good result.

If all else fails, I stop, play and bounce ideas off trusted friends :) and there's always porn!

Re: Those First Few Little Pricks

GamerUK — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 11:27:23 -0000

I have the book, and it's awesome. But ... apples just don't squeal like they used to ......

Re: Are You Being Groomed for a Stable?

GamerUK — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 11:30:29 -0000

The awesome thing about good friends is, they typically make themselves available to pick up the pieces -to varying degrees. You may think you've 'lost' friends, but if you're the solid empathetic type who friends know they can trust even if they don't like what you tell them, they may well be back when they've walked in the 'greener' grass for a while.

I read an interesting article about the Lifestyle vs. Abuse recently, and that cited 'separation/isolation' amongst the warning signs. Seeing as October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month I personally feel the (NLA) National Leather Association-International work is very relevant. They have just updated their pamphlets regarding Domestic abuse directed with a bias towards members of Alternate Lifestyles. Kudos!

Naturally here's a link to their pamphlet downloads:

http://www.nlaidvproject.us...

Most importantly, if it (whatever 'it may be) doesn't feel right to you, then ask yourself why. It may be that it's time to re-assess your situation. In Salt Lake, there are many people who will willingly spend time with you to address concerns. You probably know people who would help you if you ask them for as little as 5 minutes of their time (most would I imagine give you much more), or you can use the NLA contact details if you wish to do so in order to get good advice anonymously.

This shit can be scary. You are NOT alone. Remember a concern shared is a problem on the way to being just another blip in your past.

Re: Are You Being Groomed for a Stable?

GamerUK — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 01:05:23 -0000

I can totally see that, as a learning environment, such a D/s Household 'could' be a great way to learn, and in a 'relaxed' atmosphere with friends as a bonus. That said, the hosts would need to be mindful of their words and actions as, when it comes to peoples perception of something, 'what we see, is what is true', (even if it's not) simply because we tend to perceive as truth what we see for ourselves.

In your friends position, it would have been better for his submissive to have been open and upfront. Even better would have been to accompany her, in order to be aware of things she is learning so as to exploit that new potential. You can (both) still learn in a situation like that provided you know the conditions and are aware of potential inducements. I've found it sagely advice to "keep my friends close, and my 'enemies' closer". By accompanying her he'd negate any 'poaching' at source, and be confident she'd try hard to please.

One last thing I'll mention is that if someone tried to 'entice' a partner from me, succeed or not, I'd express my opinion free and loud. I'm typically quiet but if your stupid enough to light my fuse then any 'fallout' is your own damn fault. As a Predator (because that's what the poaching actually is in this situation, and to what end??) Communities tend not to like this sort of thing so I'd also advise your friend to think about bringing a complaint to the ears of those who matter in their community.

Re: Women and Cigars

GamerUK — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 11:19:55 -0000

Great imagery, and often something I also find highly erotic. Sadly no longer able to abide the taste/smell of tobacco close to my face.

Re: Sadist Podcast 4 – Rant: Parenting and Relationships

GamerUK — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 10:55:16 -0000

Karma vs. the Law is a great topic I could harp on about *grin.

However, I'm in total agreement that Lifestyle choices between consenting adults need to remain JUST between those consenting adults. There are many reasons I don't kiss and tell, considering welfare of children within a family unit is perhaps THE most important.

Is there a time to be open with your kids, absolutely, but you damn well better make sure the content and timing is appropriate or you'll be going to Hell in a Handcart (via jail) .

Telling about my Ex-partners antics? That's for the Ex to explain if they so choose.

Re: Sadist Podcast 4 – Rant: Parenting and Relationships

GamerUK — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 09:26:17 -0000

It's surprising how many people have a 'momentary lapse' of judgement that over-rides their common sense. The important thing is 'WE' are responsible for our own actions, and if we cause a problem (especially where children are concerned) then we are going to pay somewhere down the line either legally, or Karmically.

Re: Sorry Furries…You’ve just been Mainstreamed.

GamerUK — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 23:10:14 -0000

Hmmm I think if I wanted my bollox to sweat excessively I can find more entertaining methods all for far less than $600, I bet I'd have change enough to sail "back over a year and in and out of weeks and through a day and into the night of <my> very own room where <i'd> find <my> supper waiting for <me>" - and it'd still be hot.

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