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Re: http://partyintherok.tumblr.com/post/26940073390

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 12:02:34 -0000

How could you sympathize with the racial slurs? Has anyone ever tried to be so cruel to you? There's nothing that compares, on that level, that I could say to explain it to you if you don't get it. There is no similar situation that I could describe for you to understand what a racial slur, that was flung with such venom could mean.

If you don't want to share the messages, that's fine.

I did not take personal swipes at you. Perhaps it wasn't the nicest of me to say the guy did a drive-by. So, I apologize for that. However, the rest of my post was addressing things that you've said in the last few days to a month. I didn't take anything out of context. I didn't take personal swipes at you. I did not invite my readers to send mean things my way while laughing about it. I didn't say I was enjoying being mean or nasty, as you did in your anon replies about me.

I also never said it was about the women dating Korean men. It was always about the Korean men themselves. To say wide-sweeping statements about how men want to date women just for a green card, or all men are liars, I consider that a blanket-statement.

Just the other day, during the MBC video discussion on FB, before it was deleted, you told the gentleman that made the comment about how the video felt like he was raped that it didn't matter if he didn't intend to offend anyone. That if it did, in fact, offend someone, someone who might know better than him (such as a woman who has been sexually assaulted before) then perhaps what he did say was offensive and that he should take it to heart.

I don't think you meant to offend anyone with your statement. I don't think that was your original goal. Nor do I look down on you. But, when people step forward and say that your statement did actually offend them, and they give exact reasons why, it would seem like you'd take your own advice and look at what you said in a different light. Maybe even try to see what they're talking about. Most of the people that said they were offended have been here longer than you. They've been dating longer than you in this country. They took issue to what you said because, while it might have been your intent to say that it was only your personal experiences and that's all that mattered, you indicated that all (except for the men your friends are dating) are like this.

No one is trying to attack you. I can't really stress that enough. But, when you post your thoughts on the internet, and make a general stereotype while doing it, it only stands to reason that people will respond. I tried to do that as kindly as possible, and you responded by insulting my intelligence ('poor reading comprehension') and talking down to me ('Get it?')

For example: The reason I trust Koreans less than foreigners is that the statistics of Koreans who cheat on their SOs is very high and the language barrier can make communication and trust more difficult. Also the fact that as a foreigner, you’re probably not going to be around forever, so it’s easy for a Korean guy (or girl) to not take you seriously and think of you as more of a fling than a serious or long-term partner.

You wrote that. There is no evidence that Korean men cheat more than American men. I've looked up the surveys. You made a blanket statement, plain and simple. It's fine if it's the experience you've had here. And we are all sympathetic to that. But, when you start to expand that to include all Korean guys, that's when people are going to say something. That's all I can really say.

Re: http://partyintherok.tumblr.com/post/26940073390

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 09:14:37 -0000

I think now is a good time for you to show the email(s)/ask(s) you got. You told them to come to my blog and say it, and they did. If you don't want to post them publicly, please email me at datinginkorea@gmail.com. I'd really appreciate this, given the situation.

Re: “I will have a plant.”

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 08:34:15 -0000

Glad that it's boring because I'm not updating anything. Let me know if it gets more interesting as the weeks go by.

Re: “I will have a plant.”

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 08:33:50 -0000

No movie, I ended up evading that. But, we did spend more time together. Sadly, it wasn't a good date.

Re: “I will have a plant.”

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 08:33:13 -0000

He has no girlfriend. Trust.

Re: “I will have a plant.”

DatinginKorea — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 08:33:03 -0000

My blog died a sad death because of work. It's slowly recovering now. Haha, give it time.

Re: Party in the R.O.K.: OMG SOMEONE ON THE INTERNET HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION THAN ME I AM TOTALLY SUPERIOR AND OFFENDED!!!!!!11

DatinginKorea — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 12:15:53 -0000

You mean the 'joke' I made about the Tumblr post about calling Korean boys vampires and it being ok? See? Not everyone gets sarcasm all the time. I posted it because it was awful. And Tumblr started it.

One survey, done by a condom company? With it being reported on in the Chosun Ilbo. That's not really hard evidence, is it? (Excuse the pun. Another joke.) I'm asking for real evidence, with real numbers, not just percentages.

http://www.durex.com/en-JP/...

http://ebookbrowse.com/glob...

http://www.durex.com/en-jp/...

http://www.data360.org/pdf/...

http://www.durex.com/en-sg/...

http://www.durexnetwork.org...

According to this, Korea wasn't even in the 2006 survey. I can't seem to find any more recent evidence released by the Harris company for the years after.

Here is a survey where Korea was involved. Cheating was not an element covered.

http://www.cornerstone-msc....

http://onlinelibrary.wiley....

That one is also about ED.

http://psych.mcmaster.ca/da...

This one is a doozy.

But this simple article is my favorite.

http://www.alternet.org/sex...

You're right. Google is my friend.

Re: Roboseyo: K-girls, K-boys... both in the wrong?

DatinginKorea — Wed, 30 May 2012 13:25:51 -0000

Rob,

To be honest, at first I wondered if you were calling me a dipshit. Then, I read your post again. Then again. And again. Mostly to figure out what you were trying to say. But, I think I have it now. Which isn't really a good thing. A few small things before I get into the Big Thing.

"Yo Korean bichez are da shit poor western fat hoes aint gettin any play at da HBC bro!" I'm not really sure what you're going for here. It's pretty offensive, don't you think? Are you trying to be ghetto? hood? ethnic? black? If you were going for any of those, it's pretty far off the mark. I mean, people always say, "Write what you know," right? I could be incredibly wrong, but I don't think you know what you're talking about here. Maybe you should write it. Twice. In the same post.

"But now that other flavor is using the term K-boys, talking in the opposite gender direction, but with similarly dismissive or reductive attitudes, and that's disappointing to INP because the shoe so very recently was exactly on the other foot..." This wasn't really what her post was about. And it's too bad that's all you seemed to take away from it, when deciding to tackle your own issue on your blog.

Now, I've admired you for some time, Rob. And when I've seen you step in it a few times here or there, I've said that oh, Rob is just making a mistake. He'll realize soon enough. And then I noticed that you seem to step in it a lot where I'm concerned. And lately, you've managed to step it in without actually dirtying your own feet. You say you're opening the door for discussion, and then stay out of it. You seem to enjoy moderating the discussion, and telling people where and how to behave, but you don't seem to want to actually discuss things. And you've done this before. So now, I'm asking you to join in.

"It's up to the female spaces to keep their own spaces tidy..."
"I know I've felt that way numerous times -- like the guy at a party wanting to talk about books while some group is drunkenly singing "SWEET CAROLINE! WAH WAH WAH!" nearby."
and my personal favorite:
"Mostly, I'm OK with there being gendered spaces on the internet -- as long as they're clear that's what they are (that is, not pretending they're representative of something other than their gendered space)."

I wasn't even going to reply to this, because I was so angry at what you'd said. But I thought, well, maybe this is Rob stepping in it again, and no one has said anything. So, let's get to it.

You're okay with gendered spaces. 100% okay with gendered spaces. As long as said gendered space realizes that's all they are and don't try to represent anyone else. There are only two gendered spaces. Male and Female. So you're okay with male and female spaces. Males should stay on their side of the line, and women should stay on theirs. Since I'm on Tumblr, and so are a lot of other females (let's just forget all the male bloggers on Tumblr that are being shut out of your analysis there) Tumblr is ours. And as long as we recognize that all we are is a bunch of female bloggers, that's okay by you. So, if Tumblr is ours, what is the male blog gendered space? We only get one, and to be fair, you guys should only get one as well. But no. That's not right. Could it be all of the other sites out there are male gendered spaces? Because there are certainly a lot of them that are predominately male. Maybe, it's that a site doesn't really become gendered until females roll up. That seems to be the gist of it. We should stay on Tumblr, and the men should rule the rest of the blog-0-sphere. That seems incredibly sexist of you, especially when you consider yourself to be a feminist. Per your rules, people Like INP shouldn't have even started on Blogspot to begin with, because it was predominately male. A gendered space, if you will. She should have seen what was going on a few years ago, packed up, and hit the road until Tumblr appeared. I find that ridiculous. It's easy to say women should stay where they've developed a space. As a man you never HAD to develop a space. It was there, already. In fact, the original Korea Tumblr blogs had a fair mix of females and males. It was an equally gendered space. And when a few females came along that had new things to say, a bunch of girls decided they liked what they saw, and wanted to stay. Then men stayed as well, but a bunch of them left Korea and stopped blogging. But, it wasn't given to us. It wasn't handed to us. It could have easily happened on Blogspot. And then you'd have nowhere to blog.

Which, while we're at it. Why ARE you on Tumblr? I was excited to hear that you, Burndog, and a few more were joining the Tumblr world. But if Tumblr is, in fact, our gendered space, who said you could join? I certainly didn't. Why would you think that you, as a man, and by your own rules, not allowed in our blogging space, think it was okay to barge in? It's for us, to talk about woman things, not for men. Which means, you had no right to stick your bottom half in. Right? It's not so fun to hear on the other foot, is it? If anything, WE are the frat party. And you are the one trying to discuss books. (Which is an incredibly weird analogy as well. I've been to plenty of 'frat parties.' Have you?)

Now to the second part of your quote, that I should only talk about womanly things. Because I am a woman, and should not get confused that my blog is anything more than a woman's place to chat. I am allowed to talk about dating, because that is a woman thing. I am allowed to talk about sex, because that is a woman-friendly thing. But I shouldn't dare to talk about politics, or race, or teaching, those are not woman things, amirite? Maybe not. But that's what you've stated above.

You said, "but when I write, I think about the ten most thoughtful commenters who regularly visit here, and basically write for them, and that helps me feel good about how I write, and who I'm writing for." Let's break it down. My top ten commenters are a cool 50/50. My top commenter is a man. An older man who happens to enjoy what I write and what I say. He's been around for years and if I were to pick one reader that I write for, it'd have to be him. Because he's the one that always reads. Which means, I'm sorry to tell you, that my blog cannot be a gendered space. It's impossible. I'm a female writing for men (in your words) and that means that my blog is unable to write for only one gender. You also read my blog (I assume) and that means unless you've suddenly grown a vagina and lost your male-parts, it's still not a gendered space.

I don't think you realize how rude you came across in your initial post. It read, to us gendered readers, that you were putting us in our place. We were the women. We best stay where we belong. And that's not in the male-dominated spaces. Slow our role. Know our role. We are women. Only women. Don't expect anything else. Be a woman. Write woman things. And only that.

As I said before, it's ridiculous.

Re: Roboseyo: K-girls, K-boys... both in the wrong?

DatinginKorea — Wed, 30 May 2012 12:30:13 -0000

Joy, If you have something to say to me, by all means, please do so. But please, please, do not believe that you have anything to do with my reputation on the internet. If you would like to continue calling me a slut, go for it. But. don't expect me to sit by and accept it. You started the fire, then you couldn't handle the heat when I replied. There's no need to put it here on Rob's blog. If you'd like to find me, you know where I am. datinginkorea@gmail.com is a great place to reach me. Or, datinginkorea.com is also open. As you know, each post has open comments.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:32:03 -0000

I see you edited this reply to delete crucial information. A wise choice, I agree. But, to me, it's also the reason for why you wrote the new slut post in the first place.

See, I wasn't upset you were associating my name with your slut discussion. Annoyed, sure. But not upset. I was angry because you HAVE told me how to live my life for quite some time, as I showed in the quotes below. I always just accepted this and left it alone because, as many people agree, you have a right to comment on my blog since it is publicly accessible. I know you don't think you were telling me how you were better than me, but it is definitely easy to see why I thought that you were (and still do.)

Regardless, the reason why I wrote this whole post is as follows. When you came back and wrote your updated views on the slut discussion, you specifically omitted the part that you edited out in this reply. That, to me, is key. And I think you're smart enough to know what I'm talking about. You didn't want to be a slut yourself. Yet, by your loose definition, you were, based on the part you edited out. BUUUUT, if you changed your views on what being a slut is, then you would no longer fall under that category. So, since your views changed, I also no longer fell under that category. So, you wrote a new post explaining your new views. That's personally how I see it. It comes off as being extremely hypocritical. But, I can see why you don't want to leave the edited part in, especially given the things you've said or insinuated towards me.

It's too bad. It would have answered a lot of questions for a lot of people.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Fri, 18 May 2012 23:21:46 -0000

Thank you for responding Diana. I always appreciate your support on any issue. This made me smile, "And I never thought you not a slut because you married a Korean guy." That's some serious double negative action there...it reads as if you actually are a slut, too. Haha.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 15:40:20 -0000

I don't see your apology, but I am glad that you are trying to fix the situation. If you don't see how you were attacking me before, and telling me how I live my life was wrong, there is nothing I can say to that.

What I can say is that I appreciate you doing something about the posts. I would have preferred, as I've already stated, an explanation, rather than a deletion, but we take what we can get.

I am going to put this behind a cut so it's not so glaringly obvious on my page. I hope you do come to me next time you want to say something personal about me. Of course, as has been stated above by Busy Bee, you have n0 requirement to do so. But, I think you can see that it's not fun when people put you 'on blast' as I've called it, and you feel as if it's unfair.

Best of luck to you and your new guy. I know it's important to you to find love and marriage in Korea, and I hope you achieve that goal in a non-shy party-girl way.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 15:36:33 -0000

I'm glad to hear it. Best of luck to you with your current/future lady/man.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 15:34:43 -0000

"Did that not cross her mind AT ALL? It's not like it just came out of the blue. I'm not saying she has to care. But it doesn't seem that shocking. And I also don't understand why she (or you) is up in arms about "derogatory terms" because someone called her a slut...nearly half of her blog is about who she "fucks", blow jobs, handjobs, not remembering who she slept with, going to motels with men she barely knows, one night stands, etc. But that is not derogatory or degrading? Does that give people the impression that she respects herself? She paints that picture of herself BY CHOICE. But people should still treat her like she is one CLASSY LADY!!!..right? I can see why people would have that opinion of her."
So, you're not calling me a slut, exactly. But you are telling me that I'm not classy, that I'm painting a bad picture of myself, and then go on to say that you know why Liz and I are friends, when I haven't even responded.

Here's the main deal.

1. How do you know what normal people do and do not do. When I started this blog, 'normal' people did not date Korean guys. Guess what, turns out they do! They do a lot, apparently. They just weren't talking about it. Girls have sex. Lots of them. All the time. A lot of girls LOVE sex. Just like me. If having sex and giving endless is disrespectful, what would you have me do? I think the part that bothers you (you can say it's not your opinion that I'm a slut, but it's certainly your opinion that I'm not classy, yet expect to be treated as such) is that I write about it. The truth is, even if I stop blogging about it, people are still gonna do it. Bottom line.

2. You've obviously been reading my blog for a while. You know my mom reads it. You have an issue that I blog the way I do when my own family can read what I write. It's a good thing she accepts me and applauds what I'm doing. It was her idea in the first place, before she found out I'd already been doing it for years. However, if you have such an issue with me being a dating blogger when my mother can read what I write, why would you come in here and then insinuate some pretty nasty things about me? That's rather rude, don't you think?

Was my reply to Joy direct and harsh? Yes. I fully admit it. And I hope Joy knows why I did what I did. I think she at least gets part of it, based on her replies below. Is it Joy's right to address me any way she likes? Sure. I opened the door, as you say. But, that does not mean I get to stand there and let all the flies in. If I have an issue with what someone is saying about me, it is also my right to reply and contradict and explain myself. Given the rules you've stated about what Joy can and cannot say about me, it goes both ways. I also have the right to do as I please. She opened the door, after all. No?

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 01:19:37 -0000

On the one hand, thanks. Haha. On the other...did you even see Mean Girls? But really, thank you for the support.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 01:18:42 -0000

You did not email me or send me a Formspring. Since you've been blasting me for years, I don't see the big deal. I've replied below because that is how you've addressed me. Publicly.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 01:17:19 -0000

Yes. You could have. But, you didn't. And you've been saying rude things to me for years. Let's look at that, okay? In 2010, you started commenting on this blog. Not as your easily identifiable Disqus, but as 'joybot0.' Here is a record of those comments.

http://disqus.com/joybot0/

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on Where have I been?! 2 years ago
"I would say it is a healthy change of pace!"

This was in reference to KFF basically moving into my house after a month, why was it healthy, Joy? Because I had a boyfriend? Why is that the healthy choice?

on LG sent me a text last night. 2 years ago
"I am not sure about the other guys. But typically any guy is overworked. If the boss says he has to go somewhere and do something on the weekend or any day they have to do it. I sometimes don't see my bf till after he gets back from a roadtrip seeing one of his clients. If you plan on forming a lasting relationship with one of the guys you pick you may want to know more about their job and future. If they don't have a job now likely they will get one and that means that they will work a lot. Especially if they are an office worker they will have to go to dinner and drink with coworkers afterwards for long hours. Oh poor adult kboys."

Yes. Poor adult Kboys. And me.

on Craigslist. 2 years ago
"Think of it as shopping. That is what I did. It sounds funny but it's true. You can shop around via online until you find someone who sparks. If he asks a lot of questions about the culture and not your body then you know he is interested in a good way.
The thing is I think with modern relationships is that sex is involved more in the beginning. But you have to build up the trust and love with time.
The Kguys I think are programmed to feel that if they are alone with you in a space that has a bed and is not their house then they can have sex. Unfortunately the only place they can go to after a date is a love hotel. So dating someone with their own housing is kind of like going back to the love hotel.
Anyways! I don't know if I am making sense haha.
Definitely stick to the age you are looking in. Ask them what they do after work.
I talked to my boyfriend on the internet for a few days and he sent me his cell number via a text message exchange.
The following weekend I went to a park in my neighborhood. I randomly texted him that if he wanted to he could meet me there. He came immedietly. You could tell he was excited and really wanted to get to know me. We went on a few more dates and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I finally let him into my house after a few weekends since I he never asked me if he could come up. So I knew he was being patient.
After that things took their course.
Making a relationship last longer than 2 months will require more than just cultural know-how. (I don't mean to sound like the relationship expert...trust me I have been through many relationships some long and some very short).
You know...it will mean letting things happen as they should.
For me I can't focus on more than one guy so I never tried dating more than one person at a time. I would suggest singling one person out from one source and giving that a trial run.
Anyways it is always fun to read about your adventures and opinions. A few friends of mine use your blog as great gossip! So keep it up."

I should single one person out and focus that way to find the right one. I guess I've been, and was, doing it wrong. But you were there to tell me.

Last one:

on Craigslist. 2 years ago
"I don't know about Craigslist. I was successful with Korean Cupid because I weeded out the lame ones by looking at their picture and using the chat function. If guys cut right into talking about sexual stuff they were pushed aside.
Basically what it sounds like you are trying to do is to form a long term relationship or one that lasts longer than 2 dates..etc. To do this you need to take it slower of course. You also need to keep the guy out of the love hotel or your house. Keep him coming back but for reasons other than physical means.
I met my guy via Korean Cupid and I know he is in this for the long haul. His family is open minded and he is too.
But I have to ask what age are you going after? As we know 21 year old Kboys will be shipping off to the army so they aren't thinking about serious relationships. You may want to find a Kboy out of the army and back in college.
When hunting for a good Kboy try to see whether he has a stable job and what he likes to do after work. If he is home after work chatting with you then you know he wants to be with you instead of his work buddies out for the nightly ritual. That is how I knew my Korean Cupid guy was really interested in me.
I hope you find someone sweet and caring because when a Kboy cares about you they are really loving.
;)"

And there we go. The crux of it. If I don't spread my legs, I'll find someone.

THIS is why I have an issue when you decide if I'm a slut or not. You've been trying to lecture me and teach me for years the proper way to be a lady. Even if that didn't really work out for you, amirite? But you knew the best way for me to be. And you weren't shy about telling me or the whole world what I was doing wrong. So, this is why I asked. What exactly changed your mind? I think I have some idea, but I'd like to hear you say it. At least, I'd like you to maybe see how rude and condescending (with no real leg to stand on) you've been towards me for the last two years. Excuse me if you've had a complete turn around, but since you haven't explained why, I just don't buy it.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 00:54:07 -0000

You can do what you please, but I will no longer be sitting idly by. But, let's take a look at your other claim.

1. http://koreabridge.net/post...

2. http://en.korea.com/blog/bl...

3. http://www.interexpat.com/f...

Those are just three websites you have posted about me possibly being a slut. You have posted in other places, and posted one of each article. I take issue that you claim it was only on your blog. We both know that's not the case.

The point is, write what you want. And I will, too. But if there is something you'd rather not be said about you, maybe, just maybe, you should think twice about saying it about someone else.

Re: Putting people on blast: Foreign/er Joy

DatinginKorea — Tue, 15 May 2012 00:30:00 -0000

I know I'm not a slut. That's what this whole reply has been about. As I said before, you somehow deciding that we, the dating bloggers, are not sluts NOW is absolutely saying you thought we were before. Let's take your reply in pieces.

You DID login under another name and post replies before. But, never fear, I have found them and will be posting them shortly. You have always insinuated that you are better than me, that you are doing things correctly. That you are pure, and I am fallen (in a sense) and that is why you have long-lasting relationships and I don't. It's been going on for two years, and now, all of a sudden, the tides have turned. You've changed your mind. And while that's wonderful, it's also bullshit. It's bullshit if you don't say why.

You HAVE associated me with being a slut. You've made the association as clear as day. You have used my name in direct correlation a few times to being a slut and what that entails.

Yes, I think men are just men and foreign women are just foreign women...but you don't. And you proved that again a few days ago. You said Korean men only turn to us because they can't get Korean girls, and foreign women are divided into good girls and bad girls. You have clearly stated YOU are a good girl, but many others aren't.

You changed your original post to make it less rude two years ago. I do not have a copy of the unedited version. You still have not stated what it is that caused you to change your mind.

And yes, I know my post can cause you damage. It could cause far more, as you well know. But, I did not use your full name (you did) and I did not post anything on your blog. Bottom line? When you go around flinging defamatory words, don't be surprised if someone flings something back.

Re: Valentine’s Day

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:21:30 -0000

(The night of many replies.) It's funny, when Vegas asked me to be his girl, I had to really think about it. I told INP that I'm not sure I'm ready to give up single life. I am, for him. He's a good guy and I'm tired of being single. But, when presented with the choice, I really had to think about it. It surprised me. We'll see what happens.

Re: Valentine’s Day

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:19:38 -0000

Fighting! I'm half glad and have sad others are in the same boat. But, it always works out in the end, right?

Re: Valentine’s Day

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:19:08 -0000

I don't believe in fate, but I understand what you're saying. I hope that things turn around for you (if it's in the cards.) I'm not fretting and you shouldn't either. Life sucks sometimes, but it gets better. It always gets better.^^

Re: Valentine’s Day

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:18:06 -0000

Haha thanks. Sometimes I fall into the dumps. I think we all do. But, I'm doing fine now. Sorry I didn't reply sooner. Thanks again.

Re: Valentine’s Day

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:16:21 -0000

Thanks. I originally started the blog in part because I thought people in my situation would be able to relate. Glad you like it.

Re: Big Bang Big Show (Alive Tour)

DatinginKorea — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 15:14:00 -0000

I have fully convinced my students I married T.O.P. I also got one of the other little boys in on it, and he's carrying the story for me like a champ. The only reason they're 100% convinced is that he doesn't lie. Ever. He's quickly becoming my favorite student. In my life. Haha. Obviously. (For the record, he wanted in on it because they always tease him. And he thought it would be awesome to get them back.)