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Re: Confessions of a Sex & the City addict: It destroyed my life

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 15 Jan 2019 19:07:54 -0000

Amen.

Re: Confessions of a Sex & the City addict: It destroyed my life

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 15 Jan 2019 19:05:02 -0000

I agree. Influence, yes. But to blame it? That's truly silly. The article could have said it was an influence, but she makes an attempt to relieve herself from all accountability by saying the show told her that was how she should live. That's my only point. I certainly didn't mean to sound self-righteous about my own path either. I played it too safe, myself, and wouldn't recommend my life path either. My point was, I watched the same show as her and adored the show at that time. But I am proof a show doesn't place an evil curse of hypnosis on us that makes us blind to how our life could turn out if we pursue the show's model. We are adults that have to think about our own lives as more than a glossy fictional show.

PS. I apologise for the ridiculously late reply. I haven't visited disqus in months.

Re: Confessions of a Sex & the City addict: It destroyed my life

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 15 Jan 2019 18:55:14 -0000

Well, I'm 39. I'm a Christian. I was watching this show from 19 through my mid-twenties. Somehow your "those of us over the age of 30" argument fails based on my sentiment alone.

I watched the show and saw women who couldn't have it all, despite thinking they could. They chose chaos and cocktails and sex, thinking love and family would just happen. Instead, they all ended up professionally successful and largely empty on relationships.

I watched where episode after episode, the women questioned if they were salvageable. Where Samantha is sick and realizes no one cares about her enough to come fix her curtain. Where Charlotte asks herself if she earned the title "whore" after her boyfriend called her one. Where Samantha sleeps with men to fix her bruised confidence in aging and rejection, only to still feel older and rejected. Where Carrie wonders why she actively only chooses men who won't love her yet leave her hurting. Women who realize they nearly all lost their chances at motherhood because of playing the game.

People see what they want to see. If you want to LITERALLY blame the show for living your life full of bad choices, it says so much more about society that we blame fiction for our own choices than what it says about the show itself. Accountability. We can say we allowed ourselves to be influenced by something and still take the blame for our own lives. But you and this author can pass the blame to whomever you want. Heck, blame me if you need. If it helps you feel better to say it wasn't your fault, that's up to you. Likewise, you could go cheat on your husband and say it's because a movie you watched made it look exciting. That doesn't make it true. It gives an excuse. A pass. But to be a Christian is to believe God gives us free will... which applies to our ability to choose Godly pursuits or to choose to view a show called SEX AND THE CITY as our life model. I mean... I honestly don't understand how you can make an argument for blaming a show for an empty-feeling life. Not any show.

Re: Confessions of a Sex & the City addict: It destroyed my life

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 12 Jun 2018 21:50:56 -0000

The show is not to blame. Did the show encourage trash? Yes. But I am her age and watched the show then, also. I also fancied the idea of that lifestyle, but I chose to pursue the family life I'd always wanted. I made a choice. I missed out on a lot of silly adventures, I'm sure, and I always knew I could change my mind and choose the SATC lifestyle -- but it would have been at the sacrifice of having my husband and children. Blaming a show for 20 years of emptiness is even worse than blaming a show for a impulsively bad choice. I am positive she had access to more wholesome shows, books, and even the Bible during that exact same period. She simply made her own choice and now has regrets. PS. The show eludes frequently to Carrie also living for years on ramen noodles, etc. I'm sad we live in a society that thinks it's legitimate to blame a television series for 20 entire years of a life lived badly.

Re: Box full of toys returned to USPS customer, twice

Ashley Sue Bullers — Sat, 07 Apr 2018 16:38:11 -0000

WHERE is Gonzales? What state? Write your articles as if it will go viral, since Google pushes stories randomly at people, and you are clearly in a different state than I. Yeeesh. Journalism, anyone? The best I have to GUESS is this is LA since you mention Baton Rouge. A good article, even short, shouldn't make the audience guess your location, though. #armchairquarterbackhere

Re: Ladies, Please Stop Doing This On Instagram | Thought Catalog

Ashley Sue Bullers — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 14:35:51 -0000

I adore this article and 100% get what you are saying, Sir. Many who disagree with you may be defensive because the truth isn't IG-pretty, and it even stings.

Re: YouCaring vs GoFundMe

Ashley Sue Bullers — Mon, 09 May 2016 23:42:14 -0000

I might think it's obnoxious that half the joes and janes out there beg because they want a fancy life they can't afford, but they have every right to beg as much as someone who legitimately becomes incredibly ill and is being taken by the insurance and pharmas.

The big thing is, Demi, that you DON'T HAVE TO GIVE MONEY TO ANYONE. :) If you think all these people are whining, begging wanks, then don't give them money. However, if someone else chooses to give them money, that's who you really have the problem with. But the truth is the truth:

People have a right to ask for whatever they want. People also have the right to give whatever they want of theirs to someone else. So, get off your high horse, dahling, and stop preaching how hardworking and respectable you are. Live by example, not mouth. Thank you, Love.

Re: DIY Necklace Holder (for the minimalist)

Ashley Sue Bullers — Sun, 17 Apr 2016 18:51:32 -0000

If shining copper with ketchup works because of vinegar......
couldn't I just use vinegar to shine the copper?

I ask because I have tons of vinegar in my house, and not as much ketchup. Also, vinegar alone is much cheaper than ketchup.

Thanks! That is a gorgeous way to store / showcase necklaces! I love this idea as I'm trying to make my own.

Re: The Holderness Family Is Back With Another Cringe-Inducing Music Video Including Bonus Gender Stereotypes!

Ashley Sue Bullers — Wed, 26 Nov 2014 21:02:51 -0000

I think the problem lies in that you want to turn their videos into a statement about all men, or a statement on how to parent. This isn't instructional, nor is it political. You said yourself you have friends whose husbands can't figure out a washing machine. You also have friends whose husbands are chefs and exquisite homemakers. Good for both. My husband's cooking skills and desire for organization put mine to shame, all while he fixes cars and the roof, too. Great. Penn happens to be the first, with a more "who cares if I do it right, I'll get it done good enough" approach to certain task, but is great at tons of other things. Yet in no way is Penn's video an assault on my family's life or senses, because we're not reading things into the videos that aren't there. The family is wonderfully goofy. And you certainly don't have to vibe with their brand of humor. But to get self-righteous about some supposed grand message they are or aren't portraying to please you is pretty silly to expect from a family. Not actors, but a family, making goofy videos true to THEIR lives.

Re: News and Observer: PR firm issues fake Raleigh press release touting mayoral announcement

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 22 Jul 2014 16:22:26 -0000

I briefly worked for a PR firm in Raleigh - a reputable one. And I can say my quitting had everything to do with realizing that about half of all press releases (particularly those gushing over "awards" the client received) are fake... as are the quotes by clients, which I was told by the head of the PR agency to "make it up. Our clients know that we know better than they do what they should say."

Something like this is just the next step. Ha

Re: Handy Infographic is a Useful Social Media Image Size Cheat-Sheet

Ashley Sue Bullers — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 17:12:22 -0000

Having been a marketing major, I am sad to see that so many people like yourself don't realize how they go hand in hand, and how you can use social media to accentuate your offerings.

To address the dimensions argument, and why people do care, I see many photographers consistently ask why their photos look so pixelated and grainy on social media when it doesn't on their own site. Simple answer: Dimensions matter.

And no, the Canon 5D Mark III does NOT already give you "a very good size to showcase your work". It gives you FAR too large of a size to showcase your photo. When it is compressed by the different social media platforms, it becomes pixelated and fuzzy. Forum after forum of photographers express their frustration with this, and tons of companies and artists that make Photoshop actions create actions for "optimize for Facebook", BASED ON THE DIMENSIONS. Otherwise your nice, gorgeous 14+ MB photo will look like junk.

Growing a career is multifaceted. Truth. It's not one-size-fits-all, and social media isn't "cutting corners". In fact, doing it right takes time, know-how, and patience. Not to mention diligence. Not doing it is "cutting corners".

And while Facebook, the example you give, does take liberties with our works, that is the internet. No matter how judicious you think you are in "protecting" your work, you can either be online or you can be in the stone ages. And being online means you do not know WHO chooses to use your work and how, though you can make *efforts* to reduce that likelihood with strategic watermarks and the likes.

Again, I've spent significant time studying marketing and r&d, as well as living it professionally, so please do not presume to know that I have not read Facebooks TOS (I have), simply because I believe it has a valid place in many people's art and photography career.

And especially do not be a condescending disrespectful person with tacky statements like "obviously you haven't read..." Give me a break and act like the grown adult you are. Respect that someone might have a different opinion, even while knowing as much about the atrocious TOS as you do. The only "eye opener" I got here is in how condescending you are in your view of what proper marketing entails.

What works for you apparently works for you. Kudos. That is rad, and I'm happy for you.

Acting like you know all and that this is social media is something in which "who freakin's cares anymore" is pompous and silly of you. Plenty of people care... and plenty of people should.

Thank you, and Good Day.

Re: Handy Infographic is a Useful Social Media Image Size Cheat-Sheet

Ashley Sue Bullers — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 16:23:20 -0000

Social media matters, and making sure your images are optimized to show your talent matters. And those of us who believe in continuing or building our careers - that is who "freakin's cares anymore".

Re: Handy Infographic is a Useful Social Media Image Size Cheat-Sheet

Ashley Sue Bullers — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 16:22:04 -0000

AND, Facebook doesn't have "Tabs" you can make an icon for anymore. What an outdated list they've just published!

Re: James Lester Allen

Ashley Sue Bullers — Sat, 05 Jul 2014 17:10:52 -0000

I cannot thank you enough for that, Lizzy. You're a sweet, amazing woman, and thank you for leaving encouragement. <3

Re: Why We Hate Seeing Photos of Ourselves

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 14:13:13 -0000

Hey DL,
You say here very factually that we show more emotion on the right side of our faces, then you wrote an article less than a year later with research indicating the complete opposite. You sound really factual both times.

http://petapixel.com/2012/0...

Maybe it would be good to clarify the mistake in this one for people finding this archive.

Thanks, and cheers,
Ashley Sue

Re: Why We Hate Seeing Photos of Ourselves

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 14:05:54 -0000

Really? Cellphone photos make people look 10x better than they do in real life? What magic phone do you have? The lens on these cameras is an extremely wide angle, distorting facial and features tremendously and making them sharp and harsh. Since when is that flattering? Photo after photo I've seen of friends, taken with cellies, show them looking wider, pointier, and splotchier than a good 85mm+ would have. Are all of these things you've even considered?

PS. I'm talking good phones, too. Not some sort of ancient, brick-sized cell phone from a decade ago.

Re: Giveaway: Win a Fuji Instax Mini 90 Instant Camera and Twenty Packs of Film!

Ashley Sue Bullers — Sun, 26 Jan 2014 16:51:59 -0000

Taking candid portraits of family, friends, and our adoption journey! I love the "caught in the moment" life photos more than the type I'm paid to take. :D And what a perfect way to capture it all, in a 365-project way! <3 What a great giveaway!

Re: An Open Letter to Photography Thieves

Ashley Sue Bullers — Thu, 23 Jan 2014 18:24:34 -0000

Is it me, or are you being one of the very people the author is talking about - a person whom against all logic actually *defends* the thieves? Because I am fairly certain I just heard an excuse - a huge, stinky, rotten excuse - for inexcusable (and illegal) behavior.

Re: How to stop having sex with your computer screen, stop believing your own hype, and a few other things…

Ashley Sue Bullers — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:27:43 -0000

Actually, I completely disagree. I could not disagree more.

My eating disorder is the exact same as my mother's alcoholism, which is the same reason that causes the married man in my office to hit on me - a married woman, which is the same reason that my friend ran up and maxed out four credit cards.

Control. We are all DESPERATE to fill a loneliness, an insecurity, a fear, a longing. And the intricacies may lie behind what those holes are, or why those holes exists, but ask an addict who has suffered and is recovering from multiple addictions - alcohol, sex and food - and when they are getting real with you in healing instead of making excuses, they will tell you it's ALL about one thing:

Control.

We stop believing (or never did) that Jesus can handle it, so we convince ourselves WE can. That we can heal that longing, that pain, that fear, that loneliness. So we go about our day, doing every. single. thing. we. do. in an effort to, what? Control. Control others, control circumstances, control everything.

Muddling our issues by trying to excuse them with the intricacies allows us not to heal, and even to accept or justify the evils in our lives. And, for that matter, doing that in itself is another method of trying to control our lives where really we have none.

Best wishes and hugs to you, Brother.

Re: How to stop having sex with your computer screen, stop believing your own hype, and a few other things…

Ashley Sue Bullers — Wed, 15 Jan 2014 10:20:56 -0000

Thank you for being SO brutal in sharing truth and the love of Christ.

I thank Jesus that He speaks up in really frank ways through some of His disciples. Like you.

Re: 36 Bizarre Things Ceremonially Dropped on New Year’s Eve

Ashley Sue Bullers — Wed, 01 Jan 2014 16:33:21 -0000

By the way, the possum drop is back on in NC. It wasn't allowed to happen in 2012, but in 2013, PETA got beat and the town was legally allowed to continue the tradition with a living possum again. FYI.

http://q13fox.com/2013/12/3...

Re: How to Save Big Money by Not Hiring a Professional Wedding Photographer

Ashley Sue Bullers — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 00:43:19 -0000

Much like what you just did. Thank you for the excellent example.

Re: Yesterday they died worshiping the same God we worshiped while holding a latte in our right hand.

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 24 Sep 2013 18:40:29 -0000

CJ, prayers and love and blessings abound with you! <3 Thank you for this reality, your love, your words! <3

Re: Yesterday they died worshiping the same God we worshiped while holding a latte in our right hand.

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 24 Sep 2013 18:38:12 -0000

I don't think Ellen would "rather die in conflict than in peace", but that she's saying, if it is the Lord's will, that she dies in conflict in order to grow peace. I pray the same thing... Lord, use me. Use this life. If I die a horrible way but it propels your Kingdom and brings any kind of awareness to You, then I die joyfully (though I hope His Kingdom can grow beautifully from something I do while I live, and I can die a happy old woman in my bed from old age!). <3 We will not have a miraculous overnight change of universal understand and tolerance... but if a single act of atrocity changes the hearts of many and makes them stand for Love, then God's will be done! <3

Re: Yesterday they died worshiping the same God we worshiped while holding a latte in our right hand.

Ashley Sue Bullers — Tue, 24 Sep 2013 18:31:57 -0000

Betty is still right, Friend. :/ By "calling him out on his self-righteous... (your comment continued)", you have judged him, and despite his attempts to elaborate, you continue to judge him very unfairly. Calling out any of us without giving a fair listen to what we hold alike but choosing to only see what you think to be different is hypocritical. We ALL have a plank in our eye, and the defensiveness your posts share is heartbreaking. It's like, I want to hug you and hope that the feeling we share gets the point across since trying to converse about it seems to only heat the conversation more. <3