Disqus - Latest Comments for 5tendiva

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 13:09:51 -0000

Hey BrianStrong, you have been vocal on this blog, and the more I read, the more I see that you are a passionate father who believes in protecting not only his kids, the the children of others. I think that we are just arguing different aspects of the situation, but I believe that we agree more than we disagree. I am sure that you are doing your best to raise 4 great kids ( as I am trying to raise a great kid), and to me, this is where it starts. The guy who slapped the kid was a monster - no doubt. Perhaps it's a wake-up call to everyone that we need to work together as a society to ensure everyone's safety, and that if we want there to be good citizens, we have to first raise good citizens.

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 12:49:44 -0000

Ok "Name", with your "parenting, blah, blah, blah," comment. You stick with the "parenting, blah, blah, blah" attitude. I have counseled in prisons and juvenile detention homes with teen murderers. I knew some of their parents, and they had the same attitude - "parenting, blah, blah, blah". Most of these parents were the ones who thought it was cute when their kids acted out. I'm not saying that all kids who throw tantrums will turn out this way, but what creates many of these antisocial criminals is having parents who won't teach them self control, or respect for others. If the point of the situation was only about a man hitting a child, we wouldn't be blogging about this in the first place. People abuse children all the time, and it is wrong all the time. But we can't escape the fact that our nation's youth are becoming more and more belligerent, and it's because parents are acting like the children should be allowed to run wild. When we let them act out in public, we are teaching them that it's ok to not have respect for their surroundings. And why do so many studies show that US kids are worse behaved than others? Because for some reason, it has become culturally acceptable to not teach restraint and consideration.

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 11:19:31 -0000

No matter what your opinion, this is a great blog. A lot of important issues are being brought to light. Anyone who advocates hurting children is wrong - hands down. Anyone who advocates hurting any innocent person is wrong. No one has the right to hurt an innocent person. But I still think this unfortunate situation came about to bring light to the other important issue - that children acting out in public should not be dismissed as ok. My daughter tried to throw tantrums in public, and I made sure to shut it down. She learned early in life that throwing fits was not ok. If she were to throw a fit, it would be because something was majorly wrong, and I made sure to do my best to remove her from the situation and help her (she is a very intelligent well adjusted child). Of course there will be difficult situations with kids, but I respect parents that at least make an effort to do something. I don't respect the parents who just let a tantrum go on unchecked, and then don't care that others are being made uncomfortable. And I don't agree with writers that keep saying, "kids cry, deal with it." I think that stores and restaurants should have policies that call for the removal of children that are being disruptive. This is done in many church services. Some parents these days even get mad if you ask them to remove a screaming child from church. Why should everyone else miss the message because of your screaming child - it's the same principle.

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 10:18:02 -0000

That grammar comment was meant for one specific writer, but I forgot to address them specifically. I attempted to apologize, but the owners of this blogsite blocked me out before I could do so. So I guess you all are happy. But the sad thing is that sites like these should be a little more tolerant. This is an important topic that can bring a lot of healing. But sometimes, in the healig process, a lot of bad feelings are unleashed. If you censor everyone that shows some anger, you will never get to the heart of the issue. But based on what I have seen, a lot of people are not interested in true healing. What I said wasn't that bad compared to others, and I did say a lot of things that were important besides that one untoward comment. Perhaps if I hadn't been prematurely blocked out, people would have had a chance to see that I am someone who can admit to being wrong, which is the first step in being civil. No one is perfect. But aside from criticizing people's grammar, I stand behind everything else that I said in this blog.

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 11:04:08 -0000

In response to jk.1007: I am NOT ignorant. Please don't compare me with ignorant people. In fact, I can demostrate the fact that I am far from ignorant in that I am in agreement with much of what you said, and you made very true observations about the overall breakdown of civility in our society. If I were ignorant, I would get mad at the fact that you disagreed with me and cursed at you - this is what I have seen a lot of other commenters do. I am about learning. As for the grammar comment, I should have directed that comment to one or two specific writers who were insulting a lot of other bloggers and acting superior while demonstrating their own ignorance. But once again, discipline should start early in life, and people should have respect enough to not let their inability to control their kids disturb others. You can say whatever you want about me, and keep making excuses, but the proof is that society is coming apart at the seams, and we all have a stake in it. And I am seeing that breakdown starting in the schools, where lack of parental control is having disastrous consequences. Get mad at me all you want, but our kids are suffering because of this constant enabling. And when our kids suffer, we all suffer in the end, because we are supposed to be raising the future. THE MAN IS IN JAIL - GREAT! GET OVER IT! I MAY HAVE TRIED TO KILL HIM TOO IF HE HIT MY DAUGHTER - but then again, I don't have this problem with my daugher. She's not perfect, but she has known how to behave since 2.

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 08:48:26 -0000

I am looking at some of the writers in here who are accusing people of being ignorant for saying that people should control their kids. Yet, if you look at what these writers posted, there are so many grammatical errors that is it obvious that they are swimming in the ignorance pool! My 5 year old spells better than some of you. Those of you that keep saying that the main issue is that no one should hit a child are extremely short-sighted and ignorant. All you are focusing on his how you would beat the crap out of the old man, and that he better not come up hin your "hood." The old man is in jail where he needs to be. BUT can we please address the issue of you parents not controlling your rotten-behind kids! As an educator, I can just imagine what it would be like to teach some of your rotten kids. The teaching of self control begins before age 2. I DARE any of you parents to wait until your child is 5 or more to "try" and start teaching self control - they will be lost by then, and will grow up to be losers. People complain that society is going downhill all the time, but when the right solutions are offered, everyone gets mad. It is NOT OK to have your kid screaming down the place in public venues - if you think it is OK, then you are completely lacking in civility. You are selfish and ignorant. You are the reason that in this great industrialized nation, WE rank among the lowest in the world in terms of math, science, and education levels. I have had to teach 13 to 15 year old brats who can't even count! In other countries where the kids are better behaved, they know their numbers by age 5! In these other cultures, the kids know before age 2 who is boss, and how to behave. You can get mad at me all you want, but the proof is there - OUR KIDS ARE A HOT MESS THESE DAYS, AND IT'S THE FAULT OF YOU PARENTS WHO ACT LIKE THEIR CRAPPY BEHAVIOR IS CUTE (even at 2)!

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 07:44:19 -0000

Ok, I think that most of us with sense can agree that this man had no right to hit the child, and fully deserves his punishment of a felony offense. But I think that a lot of the emotional parents in here are losing sight of the fact that our children are out of control, and it is mostly the fault of enabling parents, such as those of you who said that you will bring your child anywhere you want, and we all have to put up with the kicking and screaming. I am a college professor, a former child/family therapist and social researcher, and I can say with much authority that people who think we should have to put up with your unruly kids are part of the problem. What I am seeing in today's children is sad, and outrageous. Teachers can't even teach these unruly SOBs, and when we attempt to correct their miserable behinds, these same enabling parents want to scream at us! The point is that the discipline starts at (or even before) 2!!!! You enablers keeps saying that you have no control over young children, but if you would stop being such an enbler and teach the kids self control and respect early on, they wouldn't display the constant meltdowns in public. Yes I know that things happen with kids, but it seems that "things" are happening too often, which means that parents are not having the balls to show the kids how to behave. Stop being so selfish - people have the right to have peace, and if you can't control your kids, take a class, and leave them home in the meantime

Re: WTF: Man Slaps Child in WalMart, Gets Arrested (VIDEO)

5tendiva — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 16:53:11 -0000

Some of the comments here appear to support (and even advocate) violence against children (and others). No one has the right to strike someone else unless it is in self defense! This man was not in a situation in which his safety was being threatened by the 2 year old, or his mother. Having said this, I will agree somewhat with many of the misanthropes in this blog that parents nowadays are raising a bunch of entitled, spoiled brats (excuse me, monsters!). I believe that stores and other public venues should have policies that require parents to remove screaming children so as not to disturb other patrons. I AM A MOTHER OF A 5 YEARD OLD, SO DON'T ANY OF YOU OTHER PARENTS EVEN BOTHER TRYING TO GET ME TO THINK OTHERWISE. I am a very considerate person, and if my child acts up, I KNOW HOW TO MAKE HER STOP, and if I can't, I remove her from the situation so as not to disturb others. By the way, social research has suggested that American children are some of the most misbehaved and bratty in the world! Too many parents are dropping the ball and allowing the tv to dictate how their kids are being raised. And the result is, once again, children who are spoiled, entitled, and have no manners. Way to go America! But that man who slapped the kid was still wrong, and should serve jail time - he is a dangerous man.